Profile: Photo or Not?

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Registered: 06-18-2007
Profile: Photo or Not?
Mon, 08-23-2010 - 3:33pm
So, I'm wondering how many of you include your photo with your online profile? I've always included a few photos and stipulate that when contacted, I'd prefer a photo sent. I've always thought it a reasonable request but a friend of mine pointed out that maybe if a guy is in the public eye, i.e., tv, film, etc., he might not want others to know he's online dating. I would think in 2010 that a lot of the stigma of online dating has faded.
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Registered: 04-30-2008
Tue, 08-31-2010 - 5:33pm

I always had a bunch of pics posted...but I'm vain LOL.

And for the profiles I was pic, no interest. It may be shallow but its true. I need to see your face...if your face isnt pleasing to my eye, well you know.

Now....that being said, when I met my DH I thought he was barely average looking. Then I fell in love with him and he's the hottest guy on the planet as far as I am concerned! :)

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Registered: 06-22-2003
Sat, 08-28-2010 - 9:27pm

At first I didn't post a picture because I knew women would judge me only on my picture and not read my profile.

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Thu, 08-26-2010 - 9:48pm
I totally get the small town/not posting a photo thing...but I live in the suburbs of New York City! Not posting a photo here assumes you have a massive ego and that "everyone" is looking at you! Heck, I once worked in a housewares store and was in the middle of selling an actress a garbage can before I realized who she was! (Stockard Channing...very nice. Marley Matlin, the deaf actress...not so nice...I sold her the wrong size dinner plates and never regretted it, ha ha)
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Registered: 11-07-2007
Thu, 08-26-2010 - 9:17pm
exactly, in a small town it can be a tough thing especially if half the town is relatives!
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Registered: 08-02-2010
Thu, 08-26-2010 - 3:03pm

In my opinion....if someone doesn't post a picture then they have something to posting a couple of simple pictures is good. On the other hand I live in a small town so I am a little leery of posting pictures so people that I know won't see me...not because of the stigma of online dating but because it isn't anyone's business.


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Registered: 01-25-2010
Thu, 08-26-2010 - 2:11pm
Most will have pictures. However, a public figure may not but you can request one. I have photos on the sites I use. After all if there is no attraction why bother. I myself do have a pet peeve and that is headshots only. Or so far away. Full body as well as headshots.

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Tue, 08-24-2010 - 7:19pm

It's weird how many guys don't post photos saying that they don't want to get caught by people at work or some other malarky. I've had guys who email me who won't post, but will send, and let me tell you, there usually is no way in hell I'd go out with them.

I usually figured that they are married if they won't post. I've had guys who emailed me and they had their profiles hidden, but gave me a window of when it would be up so I could go on. They seemed odd, too.

I figure if there is no picture, other then they literally just signed up the night before (and MOST people are savvy enough to find at least one picture to post), I figure they're hiding from their wives/SO's.

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Registered: 05-10-2010
Tue, 08-24-2010 - 12:16am
Absolutely you need a photo.
I met my sweet man 8 months ago. He was a few hours away and I don't think I would have found him. He found me because he liked my photo - he "favorited" me, I did the same. We met at a bookstore three hours away and, except when I had to travel out of the country, we have not missed a weekend together since. This stuff is too hard to make it any harder - post a photo!
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Registered: 11-07-2007
Mon, 08-23-2010 - 8:29pm

I didn't have a photo up for a long time and it was because I didn't have one at first plus since I had just filed for divorce I didn't want other people in our very small town to tell my ex.

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Mon, 08-23-2010 - 5:20pm

I'm on Match, and I have several photos. I think a man should definitely include a photo or be willing to send you one.

I did hear from a guy over a year ago who didn't have a photo posted, he said it was because he had just put his profile up. I requested a photo, which he sent, and he was cute. We did end up meeting but he never asked me out. :(

There was another guy who I also requested a photo, but he wasn't cute and (rude I know) I never replied. But I wasn't that fired up about him anyway.

I agree that the stigma of OLD is pretty much gone. I can understand why someone famous or well know in their community might be hesitant to post a photo, but I think cases like that are rare. I always suspect the ones with no photo of being married, or really fat, or really unattractive--or all three!