Profiles are like Playboy magazine...
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| Tue, 08-30-2005 - 12:22pm |
... guys just look at the pictures, and women read the articles.
LOL, ok, maybe that's a pretty bad analogy, but I wanted a title to get attention.
Seriously, I think it holds true to some extent. Most guys probably just browse through profiles and look at the pictures. If they see one they like, they *might* read the profile itself, or scan over it, and then contact her if they don't see anything that is just a major red flag. Some guys don't even read the profile at all, they just contact the woman based on picture(s) alone. If you do a search of female profiles, you can be certain that the ones where the girl has model-like looks are getting a massive amount of emails and winks.
Some women, on the other hand, have a tendency to read *too much* into a profile. (Please understand this is just my humble opinion). I think women also pick profiles with pictures that they like, but are more likely to read a guy's profile who has average looking pics and read it. However, I just feel like maybe women can "over-analyze" stuff in a profile. For example, I have always put stuff about liking to do and watch sports in my profile. I think some women could read too much into that and think I would be a guy who would watch football all day on Sunday instead of doing things with her.
What's the point of all this? I just think we can learn from each other.
Guys should read the profiles more carefully, and understand what women are looking for before going on a disaster date where he finds there is absolutely nothing in common. We should also take more care in writing our profile, realizing that women want to know details.
I think women could be more willing to meet a guy who's profile doesn't just blow her away. Maybe he's a great guy who sucks at writing about himself. I think I have a lot to offer a woman, but it's hard for me to put it down on paper.
BTW, I am a guy who *does* read women's profiles.

hey- good point -- totally agree with you!
so what's your story? single, taken? where can we find your profile??
Eric,
As one that tends to over-analyze things to death, I came to a similiar conclusion long ago that this tends to occur. So I believe in your observations. I do read the profiles as well but I think some guys tend to just look at the pictures and are run by their hormones when it comes to OLD. On the other hand, I've met and conversed with many women on line that have told me they are very picky and rarely go out on dates. Too each his own; but I thought the purpose of being on-line was to meet people? After my two months are over with match, I'm hanging up my on-line dating shoes for at least a year. I've had better luck meeting people in real life lately. But I will say that my last year and a half of OLD has made me much less shy in real life than was the prior case.
TT
Thanks for the insight. Hmmmmm, it certainly has me rethinking the glamour shot photo I decided against.
Hi Eric,
I agree that many guys just look at pics and click with a wink if interested or possibly an email, but the email responses are more rare and take more thought!
But I do have proof of this now because with Match, they have the "who's viewed you" and I can get a wink from a guy and look him up in my who's viewed you and he hasn't viewed my profile, since he isn't in there! So yes, he winked just from the picture view and the little bit it says by the pic! But hey it's nothing that I didn't already know!
I have found that the guys who view me AND wink at me, I tend to give them a little more consideration because they have actually taken the time to read my profile. Yet of course if I am not attracted to them at all, then it doesn't matter of they read it or not, I remove them.
That is one thing I like better in Match than in the Yahoo Personals, you can delete or remove a person without sending one of those crappy courtesy rejections with Match, yet on Yahoo Personals you can't delete them unless you do send one of those canned responses! So my Yahoo one just keeps building with all of these guys I'm not interested in, but I won't send those terrible rejections.
I have been trying not to overanalyze so much with guy's profiles Eric, because my girlfriend and I just had this discussion about what if we have overlooked a great guy that just has a hard time with the written word but in real life may be great at talking.
Eric you said you have a hard time putting it down on paper, have you had the ladies here critique your profile yet?
Enjoy your day Eric...and good post...
Sunshine
Sure you can Sunshine, you just click on "delete" again when you get to the screen that asks you to send a so called "courtesy reply", without choosing one.
Sheri
<<<<.. guys just look at the pictures, and women read the articles.>>>
I have to agree with what the guys do, but I was one of those women who would do the same thing. Guess I more shallow that I thought ;)
When I was on Match with a photo that was professionally edited, I received 619 hits in two weeks. (For those of you unfamiliar with match, the site runs a total of how many times someone looks at your pic/profile).
Anyway, (after receiving maybe 12 emails out of all of those hits), I decided to have a little experimental fun just for the heck of it, so I replaced that photo with one that was taken on the spur of the moment, keeping the same profile. The next two weeks I received 150 hits and 1 email.
Gee, don't need to be a rocket scientist to figure this one out :=]
Begin
Yes, I can see you are right. Women probably might read a lot into a profile where guys do base a lot on a pic. However, I did have have one attractive guy talking to me at length on the telephone without knowing what I look like...minus a pic. So, you guys are out there, I know.
Sara
Hi Sheri,
I thought I tried that, but maybe I didn't. Thanks!
Sunshine