Pushing for a Meeting

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Registered: 05-06-2006
Pushing for a Meeting
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Thu, 06-08-2006 - 12:30am

So at what point should one push for a meeting?

This guy has been e-mailing with me for almost four weeks now. We had a hiatus of several days when (he says) he didn't get my e-mails, but after that we resumed e-mail and occasional IM's. He said he wanted to phone me and got my phone number but he hasn't gotten around to phoning me yet. He sometimes will send me two e-mails in one day. Other times he lets two or three days go by. I liked him a lot at first and was really upset when I thought he had lost interest (during the time when he says my e-mail didn't reach him) but now I am less concerned.

It has been my experience that a lot of guys on match.com are not really eager to meet. As soon as they come to the "shall we meet" stage they disappear. I have never before pressed for a meeting, usually it's their suggestion, but they disappear anyway before we meet.

I realize that if I push for a meeting this guy may disappear also. But I don't want a penpal. If this guy doesn't want to meet, I am wasting my time.

My question is whether I am being impatient. Should I give it a couple more weeks?

Elsa

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Registered: 05-06-2006
Fri, 06-09-2006 - 6:40pm

Sheri,

I doubt I'm the only woman they've done it to also. I really think that these guys are insecure and that while they want the "thrill" of knowing they can get a "date," they are afraid of actually going on the date.

It's frustrating. With the current guy, I am going to feel that I "scared him away"-- but on the other hand, I also feel that he is not worth the effort of "keeping" if all he wants is to e-mail and fantasize about a meeting someday in the future.

Elsa

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