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| Fri, 03-18-2005 - 7:45pm |
I'm thinking about meeting this older man I've been talking to online. I'm 31, he's 45, says he is honest decent guy, and he seems to be very financially stable.
Would anyone be leary about a 45 yr old man who has never been married before? He doesn't have kids. I just tend to wonder about a middle aged man who has never been married before. I tend to think, what is his hangup?

Hi Jody,
Maybe he never met "the one"? I guess it would depend on the conversation you have with him, and if that feels ok, go and meet him. Plus, not everyone wants to have children, which is their decision, and to be respected. Some men like this, after So many years of doing what/when/why they want, do Not want to change that and marry, they are just lonely and want company! Others, do want a relationship--that remains to be seen.
If there are no red, or even pink, flags, then go, have fun and come home. You won't know til you have all of the 4-1-1! I went out with one 53 (I am 48), who had the same situation. Great job, nice house, all he wanted, but worked so much, he never took time to 'work' on a relationship. He was a pleasant dinner companion, but had "I disease": "I did this" "I did that", and never asked me any questions. I said goodnight and never wanted to go with him again. Done deal.
All you can do is go, and trust your intuition.
Best o luck!
truly, Cupcake