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Registered: 03-19-2003
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Wed, 07-30-2003 - 8:46am
I'm just curious about something. I was thinking as I was driving to work this morning, a nice young man pulled up next to me. We greeted each other and drove on. Well, I was thinking hmm he must be married or has a girlfriend. Why you all may ask well, the reason I do online is the unavailabilty to meet people in my area. The area I live in is mostly married couples. I can't meet anyone on soccer married, baseball etc... Married so my sons activites are out. Play groups out married. Pool, neighborhood activites, etc... nothing in my area. I go back to my neighborhood where I grew up and the picking are so slim I can't even see it..... These are the guys that either never made it out of high school, graduated out of high school but still lives at home, etc... Lets just say not much, maybe one out of 50 will either be in school w/a job but has a girlfriend. I mean it is so frustrating. It brought me back to the comment I made to my cousin at her high school graduation, what does she has to choose from it makes it very hard. I mean she was second in her class w/most of the honors. 9 out of the top 10 were girls. A class of 135 more then a 100 were girls. She starts college in a few weeks and she is going to the local university here and I just know she doesn't has much to go on.

Ok, to my question: Is that a reason some of you go online to meet people? I know I do it for that reason, plus not being one who goes out often (to the club) I don't have the opportunity to meet many people who are available. Well, that is it just thinking out loud. Need to get to work and worry about my homework. I am here if any of you need me will be checking back often.

Marie

***Oh and I hope to have my internet back within the next week or so....

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Registered: 04-16-2003
In reply to: cl_bastphilliy
Wed, 07-30-2003 - 9:11am
Well, Marie...I hope you get the internet back and up soon too! We miss you!!! Ok, to answer your question. For me, I am a single mother, I have little to no money to go to bars or out often, so meeting people on line seems financially my cup of tea. Now, granted I still needs funds to meet these men since it is not always free. RIGHT? SO, I have a little money for that, but when I dont, I dont date. Plain and simple. I personally enjoy the open nature of the on line dating. You get all the information up front about them, hopefully the truth. Divorced, married, single, widowed, kids, no kids, work, age, location, and all that jazz. Where as when you meet out in public, that information is not always given right off. SO, it just suits my life better being that I have little time to go out and little money to do so. SO, thats me! How about the rest of you???? I would say some may feel insecure about the face to face meeting in public, I know I hated it. I mean, I always wanted to be one of those girls, that guys saw and just flocked over in bars. I never was, so it made me think....hrmmm, maybe I should go another route. lol

Gail:-0

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Registered: 07-05-2003
In reply to: cl_bastphilliy
Wed, 07-30-2003 - 10:48am
Why do I go online to meet people?

My lifestyle is not conducive to meeting single men

I'm a homebody and not a big socializer. A few years ago I came to the realization that it's highly unlikely that single, quality men will come crashing through my roof.

Through online dating I had dates with six different men within six months.

Before I started online dating over a period of five years I managed to get only one date.

jhoover21

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cl_bastphilliy
Wed, 07-30-2003 - 2:16pm
Great answer and I was in exactly the same situation. Everyone I worked with was either younger or married and I was a total homebody. I love outdoors stuff, but prefer to bike, kayak and hike alone. I too decided that Mr. Perfect was unlikely to just knock at my door so I started the online thing too. Online dating didn't lead to my current relationship, but it definitely got me out and looking and that was a great boost to my confidence.

-Debbie

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cl_bastphilliy
Wed, 07-30-2003 - 3:59pm
I went on line because my work schedule was so crazy and it seemed a good way to screen for what I am looking for - meaning, the basics. also, my sister met her husband through a personal ad and I did personal ads so it was just a natural extension. Many many members of the Jewish community in Manhattan, especially in my neighborhood, are on the Jewish dating sites as well as match so often I would end up knowing them or knowing them second or third-hand.
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Registered: 06-15-2003
In reply to: cl_bastphilliy
Wed, 07-30-2003 - 10:58pm
Hi Marie,

I go online to find dates for a lot of the same reasons you do - I'm surrounded by either married couples or college kids (I live in a very suburban-like college town). Its hard for me to go to Denver (nearest city) all the time since most of my friends are settled down and having babies, and I hate to go alone - and its guys from Denver that I'm most interested in right now. Maybe in a few years when I'm ready to move back to my hometown of Chicago I might find it easier to date there. But until then online is my best option.

Gabi

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Registered: 04-17-2003
In reply to: cl_bastphilliy
Wed, 07-30-2003 - 11:47pm
I'm on the same boat with u and Debbie, Im a homebody and not a big socializer and all my married friends' friend were all married too. Some are younger and don't have stable job. And my work is mainly on computer so i have a good chance to come online and meet someone. I got Joe now :)

~Jen