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Registered: 10-20-2006
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Thu, 12-07-2006 - 2:30pm

HI Everyone,
I have a question. Ive been talking to this guy I met on a pen pal website for about 2 weeks. This week the conversation turned sexual because of a bet we over the browns Steelers game. It started inocent and went form there. I keep asking him if hes using me or not. Hes not answering me. Do you think hes a pervert or is this something that could happen?

Im newly single and confussed. I havent been on the dating sceen in so long. I have no idea what im doing.

Thanks for the help.

Lisa

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Registered: 10-17-2002
In reply to: dolphingirl428
Thu, 12-07-2006 - 3:50pm

He's not necessarily a pervert nor is he necessarily using you, but to me, it is a HUGE red flag when a guy starts sex talk online so early and before you've even met. It usually means he's not serious about a real relationship and is just looking for sex. Not always, but usually. But you engaged in the sex talk so you were not being "used" - you cannot be used if you are a willing participant.

Because he keeps avoiding your questions, I wouldn't expect this to turn into something real. In the future, I suggest meeting a guy and spending a lot of time together before the online sex talk begins.

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