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Tue, 03-14-2006 - 4:54pm
As you know, I'm new to match.com I was wondering if those of you who have been on it longer could give me some feedback. I've decided to be a little more "proactive" :) and e-mailed a few guys I was interested in. Just friendly/funny notes, not asking them to contact me back. I figured if they were interested they would. If you know they have read your e-mail be cuase you see them on you "who's viewedme" and they haven't answered you right away, can you pretty much expect them not? Do any of you experience them responding, but just not right away? I pretty much think if they looked and didn't answer, they're not interested. But then, I've had some answer and then that was it.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: momma215
Tue, 03-14-2006 - 5:10pm

Sometimes I don't have time to respond right away to an email, but I will take a quick look at the guy's profile in the meantime. So it doesn't *necessarily* mean they're not interested...but I'd say if you don't hear back within a day or so of them viewing you, that they are not interested.

That's one of the reasons I don't use match anymore though...TMI! I don't need to know that the guy's looked at me but hasn't written back, thank you very much ;-)! I prefer to just send off my little messages in bottles and assume I won't hear anything back...if I do it's a pleasant surprise (which is why I hate 'thanks but no thanks' emails so much!!).

Sheri

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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: momma215
Tue, 03-14-2006 - 5:14pm

Wanna know what to "expect"? here's my honest two pennies... ;)


"Expect" 90% of guys to never write back. It's not personal, it's just the way it is.

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In reply to: momma215
Tue, 03-14-2006 - 6:21pm
Thanks for the input. It's really appreciated. To answer your question, that's exactly what has happened. I respond to their reply and then nothing.
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In reply to: momma215
Tue, 03-14-2006 - 6:24pm
I know what you mean. I'd rather they just not reply and my not know they looked and went "Eh, I don't think so.) :0 Certainly doesn't do anything for the ol' self esteem.