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Question about the $$
| Sat, 01-21-2006 - 12:00am |
I went on a date with this guy who kept talking about renovating his condo. Over dinner he mentions his cottage in the countryside and owning two cars and two Kayaks and a Canoe... I did not take offense/note of this. Then came the bill time. He leans towards me and asks can I get your dinner? I was shocked. I thought he asked me out so he would pay. Not that I m cheap or anything. I would invite him next time for dinner for sure if there was a next time that is but I was expecting him to pay. So I said ok but felt embarassed and wished I said no and paid my bit. Then he said the reason I asked is that one girl was mad at me that I offered to pay her dinner. I did not know what to say. I mean I did not even want to meet over dinner it was his idea. I would have settled for drinks/coffee. so anyway I m having a weird feeling about him now. He seemed a decent guy at first with some emotional side unlike most of the guys i meet but dunno if there were red flags like being cheap or materialistic? would you make that call if you met soemone like him?
Edited 1/21/2006 9:54 am ET by juliara2003
Edited 1/21/2006 9:54 am ET by juliara2003

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Ok, time out. How is that cheap? He had a bad experience with some woman who probably tore him up for buying dinner... so he was just checking that you're not that type of woman. If he leaned over and said "hey, would you mind paying for yours?" I would be screaming. But in no way is what he
Am I not uptodate with dating rules or I always thought that guys usually pay for the first 2-3 dates. I dates many guys and never was expected to pay for anything the first few dates. Of course I always returned the invitation by inviting them later to a very posh place to show my appreciation. So I m kind of wary about his question. especially that he suggested dinner. Anyway it was not a lot of money maybe $20 each so I dont know why the big fuss about it.
He's probably not sure of the rules either.
I am told that many women don't want the gentleman to assume that he should pay the bill. I would just take it for what it was. He wanted to pay the bill, but didn't want to offend you by doing so.
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Edited 1/23/2006 6:21 pm ET by sniffle_sally
Edited 1/23/2006 6:21 pm ET by sniffle_sally
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