Question about Emails/Phone Calls

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Registered: 04-17-2003
Question about Emails/Phone Calls
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Thu, 11-17-2005 - 12:38pm
OK, here is my first official question for everybody. I have a totally hot guy from match that emailed me. We have alot of interests in common, but I just keep picturing him with this big chested blonde. I am a very down to earth/girl next door brunette. Not to mention a single mom.
Anyway, he emailed me short email and I responded with a short one myself. I told him I had a few questions first, such as how long he had been divorced. He responded with "I would love to talk to you on the phone, I don't do the pen pal thing. Give me a call."
I think it is kinda pushy. Opinions please.
Thanks,
Stephanie

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Registered: 11-08-2005
Thu, 11-17-2005 - 12:53pm

I think it sounds kind of pushy also. He should have at least answered the questions that you asked in him in your email. I'd hardly consider that as being "penpal-ish." Personally, I prefer to exchange a few emails with someone before moving on to the phone. And call me old-fashioned, but I prefer for a guy to call me first, not the other way around.

Meade

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Thu, 11-17-2005 - 12:57pm

That wouldn't bother me.

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Thu, 11-17-2005 - 1:12pm

I'd much rather have someone move directly to phone than do the endless email thing, so I would be fine with this. However I also prefer that the guy call me, so I would email him back and say something like, "I'd be happy to talk on the phone. My number is ----, and tonight between 8-9 PM would be a good time to catch me."

Sheri

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Thu, 11-17-2005 - 1:22pm

Another thought is that very often people don't come across in an email the way they wanted to come across.

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Thu, 11-17-2005 - 3:26pm

It has been in my experinece that most of the men online want to get into your pants.

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Registered: 04-17-2003
Thu, 11-17-2005 - 3:43pm
Thanks for all the advice. I have decided to pass on this guy. I am much more interested in a couple of others that seem to be more my speed and not nearly as pushy. I will keep everybody posted!
Stephanie
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Thu, 11-17-2005 - 3:56pm
I think it's interesting how some guys prefer e-mails or chats to a phone call. Looking back at my overall dating history, not many guys I dated liked talking on the phone that much. However, with OLD, I think it's important to start having some calls within a reasonable amount of time. It's so easy to get emotions/thoughts screwed up in an e-mail or online chat. It's happened many times with me. What you're saying or what he's saying is not getting across the way it should.
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Registered: 04-17-2003
Thu, 11-17-2005 - 4:09pm
Thats good info to know! I am going to call one of the guys I am interested in tonight. He is a single Dad that lives in the area. We have been emailing for about a week. He has 2 daughters and 2 sisters, so he is used to lots of estrogen!
Stephanie
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Registered: 10-11-2005
Thu, 11-17-2005 - 4:20pm
Hi Stephanie,
I have found that I have to be careful about quick judgements because in our forties, everyone has a different level of ability on the computer. It may have taken a half hour for him to type you that little note. I would probably get on the phone(you call him..don't give your number) and see if he's really evasive or just doesn't want to type all night. Just a thought..
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Registered: 08-10-2005
Thu, 11-17-2005 - 10:28pm
Stephanie, I would not write someone off for not wanting to email. Personally I hate email..why you ask...because I spend 15 mins writing three lines then another 30 mins editing it, and then I scrap it and start over....or I call a friend and ask her what she thinks...repeat 2 or 3 times....you get the idea. by the time I press send its not me. I also think it is much easier to lie over email....just my 2 cents.....

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