Question about Online Dating

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Registered: 05-26-2010
Question about Online Dating
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Wed, 05-26-2010 - 4:48pm

I am a single mom and met this guy on a singles site. We hit it off and chatted online and then on the phone for 2 or so hours the first night. He invited me and my kids to an event the next night but we couldn't go so we talked and texted all evening and then came over and we chatted for a few hours. He was a gentleman and didn't try to kiss me or anything but texted me when he got home that he had wanted too. We went to the event the next night and he was nice to the kids showing them around and then texted me the entire way home. Then after he got home it abruptly stopped. He texted me the next day a few times but nothing since. He had said a lot of stuff like he was lucky to meet me, and after the event told me to stick around.

This was just last weekend so maybe it's no big deal but I have been single since my divorce (4 years ago) and I hate trying to figure all of this out and just don't want to feel like an idiot and bother him if he isn't into me or whatever. Any help AT ALL would be WONDERFUL!!!! Thanks! :)

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Registered: 05-26-2010
Wed, 05-26-2010 - 9:58pm
I should clarify a few things, he is military and my ex-husband is also military and we had all been stationed at the same base a few years ago so he wasn't a complete stranger. I didn't invite him into my home even though I did know him - we sat outside. He also worked the event so I introduced him briefly to my children at the end of the night as a friend, not a boyfriend nor was there any contact between him and myself in front my kids. And only because of knowing him did I take my kids at all, normally I never would have done that. I'm not trying to justify anything just make it a little clearer.
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Registered: 04-22-2009
Wed, 05-26-2010 - 8:51pm

Let me check this with you. You "met" him online, texted some, talked on the phone for 2 hours and the first time that you met him he came over to your house with your kids there????


there are so many things wrong with this. First, you should truly consider NOT introducing your kids to anyone you're dating until you're starting to get really serious. It's hard for kids to continually meet mommy's new boyfriends....


Also, you invited him into your home. He's a stranger. You don't KNOW him.