Question about photos...

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Registered: 05-22-2003
Question about photos...
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Mon, 03-21-2005 - 4:48pm

I had a question that I wanted to know what others experiences have been. Maybe my experience is limited to my little part of the world but I thought I would ask and see if others had similar experiences. I have found in my on-line dating experience (and this is limited to December 2003-July 2004 and February/March 2005) that in all cases but one where I exchanged photos and then went on to meet the person that they looked 20-40% better in person (we are talking maybe 15-18 men and only one this did not apply to). A lot of people (myself included) take a terrible photo (unless one is taken by a professional - or at least by someone who really knows what they are doing with lighting and stuff). My photos were taken with webcam (like most that I receive) with poor surroundings and really bad lighting. I just find that most men dismiss a woman immediately based on the photo yet I will not as I find that as long as the person seems okay on the photo I will go ahead and meet them and I am often delighted to find them far more attractive in person and often looking not a lot like the photos they have.

Just wondering if others had similar experiences.

mom of 2

PS: I finally found a friend with a good digital camera though who knows what they are doing (photography is a hobby) and finally have photos of me I actually like that are current. Taking pictures outdoors is a great idea - great natural lighting.

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Mon, 03-21-2005 - 4:54pm
My experience has been the opposite. 90% of the men I've met in person looked better in their photo. Many either fooled around with a photo editing program or they posted pics that were 10 yrs old.

 

 

 

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Registered: 07-24-2004
Mon, 03-21-2005 - 4:55pm

My experience has been that the camera shaves off 100 pounds and adds 4 inches of height to the men who's photos I'd liked and then seen in person.

You're mighty lucky if your meets have been BETTER than the pic!!!! :-)

T

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Mon, 03-21-2005 - 4:56pm
My experience has been mixed with about half looking a lot better and half looking similar or a little worse than their photo.
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Mon, 03-21-2005 - 5:03pm
My experience has been the same as jh - most of the guys look worse in person (older, bigger, balder) than in the picture. I think I met one guy that actually looked better.

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Registered: 01-01-2004
Mon, 03-21-2005 - 8:03pm

Same here too.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 03-22-2005 - 7:09am
I've only gone out with 2 OLD guys, because #2 is now my "exclusive", but the first one was BAD. I mean, nice guy and all, had some common interests via email and telephone, but yeah, his picture was either his brother, or someone else... SORT OF resembled him, but build, height, smile, and hair were WAY OFF. Then, I went out with my current guy having the expectations that his picture was "too good to be true" and he's be 5'2" instead of 6' and no teeth rather than the awesome smile his photo represented... but to my pleasant surprise... he was exactly what he represented online... only better:)
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Registered: 02-07-2005
Tue, 03-22-2005 - 8:56am

I'm with LG, my experiences have been about 50/50. Some have looked better and the others seemed to have gained weight and lost alot of hair (old pictures which are very misleading I feel to post). It is sad but I think many people go mainly by pics (I feel especially men as they comment on things that you can tell they haven't taken the time to even read your profile - yet I'm sure there are the exceptions out there) and if your pics aren't that great you get passed over.

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