Question For The Guys

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Registered: 01-20-2009
Question For The Guys
Tue, 07-13-2010 - 8:54am

This question has come up many times concerning OLD. Maybe the guys on this board could give the gals a real answer to it. I know I'm tired of scratching my head and guessing at answers. So here's the question...

If you have met someone, even though it went well, but you wouldn't be asking them out again, why can't you just say that???

Nobody likes rejection, but it's easier to deal with the truth then the unknown. I know guys feel the same way even if they don't want to admitt it. I have received more "thank yous" from guys that I have told I wasn't interested in. They said they appreciated my honesty.

So, I hope there will be some guys brave enough to express their thoughts.


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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 07-13-2010 - 1:48pm

Most people (male or female) hate to reject and be rejected.

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Registered: 02-03-2010
Mon, 07-19-2010 - 7:38pm

I totally agree. And find often when I do reject someone they come back with "Why? What did I do/say wrong?" and want you to pinpoint the reason.

I find that if you don't hear from someone within 24 hours or so it's a no.

Much easier on everyone that way.

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Registered: 12-27-2001
Thu, 07-22-2010 - 1:22pm

I'll admit right here to not wanting to reject someone in person. It ain't easy.

My chicken way out is this: I'll email the person and tell him something really polite. This usually works, that is, I won't hear anything nasty back.

Now don't slap me down for my limitation. Thanks.

And I can't get rid of the CL hat, sorry.