Question: Which online site?

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Registered: 09-29-2003
Question: Which online site?
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Mon, 08-08-2005 - 10:10am
Hey everyone. I am new here and I am thinking of doing the whole online dating thing. I have been separated for almost 2 years, actually we are divorced, just waiting for the Judge's seal of approval. I am legally allowed to say divorced.
Anyhow, I have found, probably like most of you, that I can not seem to meet anyone. I do not go out all that much, mostly because all my friends are married with kids, and here I am single with a puppy;). Friends have been pushing me to try online dating, but I have been way too nervous to try it out. I am usually up for anything, but this has me a little off guard. I have lurked around on the sites and checked out a few of them. I am really missing go out with people and having a good time, and just would like to meet someone. So I am giving into to all my fears and nerves over this one and gonna try and go for it.
Ok, so after all this what's my question? Which online site should I start sign up with? There are so many and I some seem cheesy. Any suggestions? Match.com, Perfectmatch.com and what about eharmony.....
Really appreciate anyones help.
Thanks
Wendy
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Registered: 02-19-2004
Mon, 08-08-2005 - 12:37pm
I like yahoo personals, and I also like match. I my area both seem to be popular, but yahoo seems to have more people looking for relationships in my limited experience. If one of those in your area doesn't have a lot of guys, then more than likely you aren't going to be too happy with what you find, but a lot of guys doesn't guarantee anything either. I haven't had experience with the others, I'm sure those who have will comment.

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Registered: 09-29-2003
Mon, 08-08-2005 - 4:00pm

Hey thanks for the insight. I am from NY, live on Long Island. I have checked out yahoo and have done some looking. Have you had a positive experience with it?

Thanks

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Mon, 08-08-2005 - 4:03pm

Yes - from yahoo I had one relationship that lasted a couple months and one that lasted a year 1/2. From match I was not as active, I almost dated one guy but the timing was bad, but I will try there again when I go back to OLD.




Edited 8/8/2005 4:12 pm ET ET by firstamendment

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Registered: 08-01-2005
Mon, 08-08-2005 - 4:33pm

I've had good experiences with both Match & Yahoo. Eharmony just didn't seem to work for me (you can't browse profiles, they match you up and you follow a process of answering questions before emailing).

I think any of the main ones will work - I hope all of the advertising I'm seeing will bring in some fresh meat (those doing OLD for a while know lots of the same people seem to show up on all of these sites)!

Definitely do some reading before you start meeting people - there are lots of good discussions & info on this board or you can search online for articles/info.

Also: Match has gotten pretty strict about emailing b/t members & non-members. You can't give your email (unless you're sneaky) in contacting someone & non-members can't reply to your message. I'm not sure about Yahoo (been off for a while) - I think non-members can reply to emails from members, at least. Someone please correct me if wrong. Anyway, something to think about before becoming a member!




Edited 8/8/2005 4:52 pm ET ET by virtuallyshana
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-08-2005 - 6:03pm

No, you can no longer reply to a subscriber's email on yahoo if you're not a subscriber. However, yahoo doesn't seem to have started screening for email addresses, so if you're a subscriber, you can include your email address in your initial email to someone, in case they are not a subscriber.

Mydate.com, OTOH, does still allow you to respond when someone emails you, without having to subscribe.

Sheri

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Registered: 09-29-2003
Mon, 08-08-2005 - 7:16pm

Thanks so much for the info. You guys are definitely encouraging me to check it out all together. I really appreciate. I am very nervous about trying this, not really sure why, but maybe I am just nervous no one will be interested in my profile. I am much more confident about the dating when it is in person. I'm guessing once you get into it, it becomes easier.

Thanks everyone for you advice.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-08-2005 - 7:27pm

If I were you, I'd start out with match.com. It's the largest site, with the most subscribers and you need not worry that no one will like your profile. I guarantee that if you join Match for a month you will get at least 20-30 responses to your profile.

Feel free to tell us which site you've joined so we can take a look at your profile and let you know what we think. People do that all the time on here. Online dating is like anything else: it gets easier the more you do it.

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Registered: 09-29-2003
Mon, 08-08-2005 - 8:19pm
That's a great idea. I will definitely let you know when I get everything going so you can help me out with my profile. I find that really hard to write up.
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Registered: 08-11-2005
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 10:42pm

webdate is good its free