Questions vs. Interrogations
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Questions vs. Interrogations
| Sat, 10-01-2005 - 2:14pm |
At what point can questions of curiosity make someone else (man or woman) feel that they're being interrogated?
| Sat, 10-01-2005 - 2:14pm |
At what point can questions of curiosity make someone else (man or woman) feel that they're being interrogated?
The way I look at it is, answers to questions should give birth to conversation not more and more questions.
On a first meet once, the fellow seemed to have question after question and I really felt I was on an interview. He was underwhelmed by my answers. I could have done better to impress but he annoyed me and I became a wee bit churlish. :)
I felt that his questions were more important than any answers I would give. That's interrogation for you.
amjay
So what do you personally do if after you ask a question, the person's answers leaves you wanting more? :o)
First, talk about something to address an answer. This way the person feels s/he is being listened to, which is what everyone wants, right? Asking more questions is then a good thing, because you are showing your interest.
Also, remember to give interviewees -- oops, I mean your dates -- a break from questions every once in a while.
Hmm...that's a tough call, because asking lots of questions can show you're really interested in the person. I tend to ask a lot of questions, but that's usually to get the conversation going, or because their answer gave me reason too.
I think it goes over the line when the person no longer wants to answer, and the other person keeps pushing. That gets really annoying real quick, and you definitely feel like you're in the interrogation room! Even worse is when they don't answer your questions!
Alyssa
You should be asking questions, but also answering them.
I agree with Amjay. I notice when my dates become more like an "interview process" it's not the "right chemistry" when it's more natural we tend to just click and talk about a number of topics, a few Q and A's but the more heavy "Q and A" dates are the ones where we really don't click that well hence we fill that void with a lot of questions to find some sort of common ground. Just my two cents....however I have never felt interogated or been told that by anyone...good question though!!
SP