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| Fri, 08-19-2005 - 1:40pm |
Hi Peoples,
Yes, I *finally* emailed (an undeletable copy through the OLD site too) the guy I was talking to and told him I am not going to try to communicate with him anymore. I even deleted my email address (an extra one I created) and blocked his returns on OLD. We had some good conversations, and I *love* his voice, but it is clear to me that it is hard talking to someone you don't know well strictly on the phone for weeks. I was tiring of it. I wanted to see him, etc. But he sealed his fate because he has such a problem with returning emails. He even deletes them, which I hate....or *someone* does! @@ It doesn't matter who does at this point...I'm moving on....and trying to work on me. :)
Sara

Oh, Sara, you did the right thing! There is a reason I say this, but you must read to the end.
With the first few men I was in contact with through OLD, I pushed for an early coffee date so that we could meet before going further; they felt the same. Then there was one who wanted to chat on the phone. I dislike phone conversations. However, I allowed myself to be roped into long chats with him. From the beginning I felt he was trying to get me to be too confiding, too personal, with someone I had not even met. I wrote him to explain this. Then we conversed once again, and I found out he had deleted my email without even finishing reading it "because it was too painful." What??!! My carefully wrought sentences, just DELETED?? Damn!
Nevertheless, we had a couple of other long chats, and I got him to open up a bit. BTW, at that time, it was just after Xmas, and I was feeling lonely...no other OLD dates (or other dates) looming up. So I cut him a lot of slack; I thought, "He's probably a nice guy, just insecure. And he looks cute in his photo." Sometimes he would call when I was busy and I would call him back later. He opined that he might always be alone because he would never find anyone.
FINALLY he agreed to meet me. When he showed up....well, I tried to have a poker face, but maybe didn't succeed. He did not look anything like his photo--it must have been at least fifteen years old. He obviously knew that he would be a disappointment in person, as he could barely manage to keep up a conversation. Then he went to the restroom...and never reappeared! I went home.
NOW, the coda to this story is this: all those times when I called him back, the call went straight through. I had no idea that THESE WERE LONG DISTANCE CALLS--until my phone bill came. (Both of us were using land-line phones, not cell phones.) I was and still am FURIOUS with the phone company for allowing people to unknowingly call long distance and be charged ten cents a minute (had I known, I would either not have called him, or at least used my calling card to save money). So that fiasco cost me $30 in phone charges! GRRRR!
Thanks for your story, Marigold. That was some lesson there. EEK. Waste of time and some money too. I also thought about money with the calls I had placed (about 4-5 calls, I think), but I call using my cell with the minute plan, etc. So, I think I am okay on that front. If I was using a landline, it would have been >$30, I'm sure. But, about that guy you met,...Ya see, that is amazing to me that he had the guts to get that far if he was that bad. People! Thanks again! :)
Sara
Edited to include:
Just wanted to add, Marigold, that this man and I did not meet because of the distance we are apart right now. I am moving back to his area. I actually think he is fairly good looking. The pic was not old. It was okay with me that we did not meet in person right away in some respects because I wanted to lose some weight before I actually start meeting and greeting. I want to be at my best. :)
Edited 8/20/2005 10:01 am ET ET by saralm