quick update

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Registered: 03-29-2003
quick update
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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 5:42am
Im so terribly angry. first angry at myself for answering the phone and two angry because it was 4 am when he called and woke me up. We had the final blow up so my wednesday is shot. I was doing so good, the stress had eased off of me, I was feeling better but then i answer the phone to get told im a liar, i made promises, and that it was all my fault and he hated me then in the same breath turned around and told me he was just beginning to love me. The one thing i had asked is never say love till it was a for sure thing I haven't had the best luck with that word so i didn't want to hear it till it was for real. Guess he thought by telling me that, that i would stay with him. I didn't We had a big blow up fought for an hour finally i told him good bye. So its offically over. I just wanted to let you ladies know and wanted to say thanks again for listening to me. That and i just needed to vent. By the way there were no promises made by me, it didn't matter what was talked about, he took everything i said as a promise. Take care ladies and i hope you all have a better wednesday than i have had so far.......Vicki
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 04-03-2003 - 4:19am
Vickie, it's obvious that this call shook and angered you, and rightfully so. He invaded your space. You know what a boar this man is, you recognize his immaturity and tendency to be overbearing. He's completely selfish and has no regard for your feelings. You don't need to be with someone like that.

But here's the key thing you said that stuck out to me: "So it's officially over."

That's what's most important. It's OVER. Hopefully he will get it through his head and accept that. Meanwhile, take the high road and move on. Don't respond to him any more, just ignore him. If he tries calling you again, I second what someone else suggested and consider changing your phone number. A bit of a hassle, but worth it for piece of mind. You don't need that sort of thing infecting your life.

Please keep us updated, and definitely vent whenever you feel the need -- that's what we're here for. :)

~ Neat

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 04-02-2003 - 5:06pm
I wasn't able to respond to your earlier post either, but my thoughts were those of everyone else's. I'm glad you decided against continuing with him, he sounded pretty toxic! I hope the rest of your day went well!

jayecey

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 04-02-2003 - 12:12pm
WOW! Can we say....loser? Jeez. This guy is a piece of work! Did he actually think that when he called and spoke to you that way, you were going to change your mind about him. I suppose this little event may have shown you what type of guy he really is. They say, when getting to know someone, how they solve conflict is sure sign of how they handle things generally in life. Well, you can see how he would have been if you two had stuck it out. He would have blown up every time you two disagreed and acted like a 2 year old. Sad. I am sorry for you, but just so you can rest better...you are a great woman and any guy would be lucky to have you. This guy is just mad, he didnt have what it took to get that chance. Goodluck to you girl! Hope it gets better. I agree with the girls. I would change my number.

Gail
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 04-02-2003 - 9:54am
I'm sorry but I hope the rest of your Wednesday is better...nft
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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 8:33am
What a jerk! Be glad that you dropped him sweetie and if you think he might be a problem, get your phone number changed. I'm sorry he's making this so hard on you...some guys just don't know when to let go!

Lindsay

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Wed, 04-02-2003 - 7:37am
I'm sorry that I didn't get to reply to your other posts, but I had trouble getting on here for awile. I did agree with what the others said, though. This one had "BAD NEWS" written all over it. The early morning phone call just confirms that. You've done the right thing by ending it. It's obvious this guy has problems. You're much better off having it end now. I know he caused your day to start out bad, but I hope that it gets better for you!

Melissa