Random thoughts, proud, seeking input...

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Registered: 03-17-2006
Random thoughts, proud, seeking input...
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Thu, 12-28-2006 - 2:30am

Happy Holidays!

Hopefully you all had a wonderful Christmas. :) I'm at home using dial-up, but have managed to finally log in in search of some input.

So I've been in contact with this guy from match for almost a month. I know that you're supposed to meet people as quick as possible... I guess I'm just not ready to do that yet in general. I'm getting close! (I learn to do things in my own time.) However, I'm proud because my expectations with this guy are practically nonexistant. :)

Last week we talked on the phone for about 15 minutes. It was very enjoyable! At the end of the conversation, he asked me when I'd be back from visiting my home state. He also said he "Hopes we get to talk like that again soon." I assume/d these are positive signs? The next day I emailed him telling him that I enjoyed our talk and reminded him of when I'll be back in the state. A few days later, he text messaged me early on Christmas morning wishing me a happy one. I was surprised! Today I called him and left a message thanking him for the text, and explaining that I have horrid charges for replying to text messages, so instead I chose to call. So far I haven't heard back.

I appreciate that this guy knows I'm cautious about the internet and has been patient. He seems to be showing his interest without being pushy, which is something very new to me. In the past I've been drawn to extremely persistant guys who turned out to be huge commitment phobes. I also got my expectations up WAY high.

Now that I've typed this, I'm not really sure what I'm asking, if anything. Maybe I just needed to see in words how much I've grown from the negative dating/meeting people off the net experiences I've had in the past. Usually I'm quite humble, but tonight I am quite proud. :) Feel free to reply in whatever way. :)

Happy searching and posting! Thanks for reading. :)

Pink

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Registered: 05-31-2005
Thu, 12-28-2006 - 5:56am

Brava girl! May the new growth only continue. And good luck in the new year... :o)

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Registered: 05-06-2006
Thu, 12-28-2006 - 9:39am

Hi Pink!

Glad to hear you are feeling good about what you are doing. Following your own pace and instincts is wise.

Best wishes!

Elsa

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Registered: 03-17-2006
Thu, 12-28-2006 - 12:07pm

Thanks for your replies. Today I'm feeling kinda egh. Overloaded with friends who are either having relationship problems or getting engaged. Just feeling alone, which is rare for me. Hopefully I'll feel better after shopping with the fam.

Thanks again for your kind words!

Pink

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Registered: 07-20-2001
Thu, 12-28-2006 - 1:53pm
The holidays are a tough time for many of us. I think expectations about the celebrations can be unrealistic. Same can be said about relationships. I, too, tend to expect too much out of men when most are not capable of delivering. I have also experienced a few men who came on too strong and expected too much in return. Learning how to navigate the dating jungle continues to be very hard for me. I'm going to try to look forward to the New Year regardless of whether I have a date or not. I hope everyone can do the same. Let's hope that 2007 is the year that many of us find the person we are seeking and if not, at least be content with what we do have in life. Sometimes it's hard to remember to be thankful for things in our lives. I need to be better about realizing that myself.
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Registered: 03-17-2006
Thu, 12-28-2006 - 7:00pm

I like what you said in your posting, and agree.

I've always considered myself to be grateful and humble. My relationship with God is very close. The past couple of years I was single by choice and debated ever dating again. Well, now I'm ready and am feeling impatient. I'm a good and thankful person, give me a hand, here!

Lately I've had too much time to think, being it's Christmas break and all. I feel like my emotions are all over the place when usually they are mellow.

As soon as I give up on this guy (he's slow to respond lately,) he responds again.

I have no idea what's going on lately!

Pink

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Fri, 12-29-2006 - 1:52am
I say youre doing fine & you should meet soon! How about you give yourself a time line & JUST DO IT!

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