Re-dating
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| Wed, 11-08-2006 - 12:37am |
Have any of you ever dated someone again who you'd dated a long time back?
I had been in a 2 year relationship and joined OLD when my X and I broke up about 1.5 years ago...I was definitely on the rebound at the time although I thought I was 'moving on' by joining OLD. So, I met this guy on match during that rebound time. The guy, Ian, was really great. We had a lot in common and there was mutual interest. He pursued me a lot :) We dated for about a month and had several dates--never even kissed. Right when it would get to that level, I would pretty much pull away and try to slow things down like we were just friends. Well, I was torn because I was still getting over my X. It was a bad situation...I shouldn't have joined OLD so soon (I am completely aware of this and wouldn't repeat the same mistake). I was a mess. My X started calling me again and I drifted off from Ian. It took me about a year to get over my X. It was pretty bad. I had thought about Ian months later and thought I could never contact him again ..I just felt like, if only the timing was better...
So fast forward to now. I move to this new city halfway across the US from home, and am completely ready to get invovled with someone, ready to have a serious relationship (emotionally available) and lo and behold there is Ian on my new more specific dating site (jewish one) and it says he lives HERE where I live now!! I remembered that he is originally from this city and his family lives here. I immediately emailed him through the dating site. He replied and we were all nostalgic and happy to talk to each other again. Well, we talked on the phone that week (this was about a month ago). We talked about getting together but he acted hesitant (understandably). I knew I needed to tell him that I always thought highly of him but I was at no place to be dating after I had just broken up with someone and that my head was in a fog. So, we basically cleared the air about the past. We've chatted here and there, but never made solid plans. I was happy that I cleared things up with him and just thought I'd leave the ball in his court to try or not try to date again.
Well, I talked to him tonight and we set a date for tomorrow night! Wouldn't it be crazy if we totally hit it off!

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GRRRRR I was so excited with the first post and thinking that things like that really do happen. . .
. . . I guess he hadn't been one that you had considered "the one that got away" over the years - - or was he? If he was, at least now the Gucci wallet will strike him out of that category :-)
Update:
I just now, sunday night, got a voicemail from him,
"Hey, thought I'd call and say hi. Hope you had a good weekend. Give me a call."
Nuh-uh, nice try. we were suppose to be part of each other's weekend!
What in the world is that all about. I'm just rolling my eyes here. He can't pull one over on me that easily. Why can't people just follow through with what they say they're going to do. I'm about to 'jump to conclusions' with this, but I can just imagine that he stood me up for a date with some other woman... That date didn't go well as he thought it would. So, he's tryin to test out the waters with me to see if he can just pick up as if nothing happened. This is ridiculous, I don't have time for this stupidity. I may sound harsh, but I'm just not going to get into it with this man... I'm not calling him back! There is no doubt in my mind that he knew the ball was in his court to let me know which night we'd do something.
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