Re-Interpretation of Men's Need to Chase
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Re-Interpretation of Men's Need to Chase
| Wed, 04-05-2006 - 10:11pm |
I've been pondering this subject for awhile, making observations and such. It seems to me that both good and "bad" men appear similar on this subject. I'd been trying to reconcile the seeming contradictions, when it occurred to me that what men really need to do is wait. Some men make it a chase in that they push women to give them what they think they want before either one is really ready, destroying true intimacy. These are the men I define as players, whether they whine and plead or try to create a false sense of connection talking about the future, etc. to get sex. My observations of men is that once they've gotten sex even one time, the chase is over. Then they look over what they've gotten and decide whether they want it or not. Good men recognize this phenomenon in themselves and don't go around trifling with women's affections, breaking hearts. However, for some men, it's the name of the game. To some men, also, physical closeness is intimacy, period, which is a problem if you want a real relationship: emotional closeness, understanding, etc. I really think that we as women need to make sure we've got the man "hooked" before we give-up much beyond casual friendship, and then make sure it's someone worth having: that will be true, have lasting affection, etc. Before I happened upon the concept of their needing to wait, I thought men were capricious and arbitrary. I think this is why it's good not to push a man in a relationship nor let oneself be pushed. Any man who pushes doesn't have his own or the woman's best interests at heart. Just my two cents...

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Um...alrighty, then!!! I thought we were actually engaging in a rational exchange of ideas and viewpoints but I see now that's not the case.
My mistake, sorry.
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