Ready to just give up on dating! Help!

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Registered: 10-24-2005
Ready to just give up on dating! Help!
Mon, 10-24-2005 - 10:36am
Good morning everyone! I really, really need your advice! I met a guy on-line one month ago, and we have been out on a couple of dates. He even stayed the night at my apt., and I met his son on Saturday. He seems like such a great guy, and I was really beginning to think that we have something special. He even talks about things we will do in the future and how he doesn't want us "to end". Anyway, a couple of things recently have made me doubt where his feelings truly lie. Saturday night, on the phone, he made a comment about how he doesn't think he'll ever get married b/c of all the problems that couples have once they get married. I thought it was a really stupid comment and just laughed it off. I know he could have been saying that to make himself look like he's not "that into me" b/c he has said he calls me too much. He calls me every night. Then, yesterday, he told me about seeing his ex-girlfriend, the mother of his 7 year old son. She's remarried, and they never see each other b/c her husband meets him with his son. He told me about her wanting to quit teaching and selling her house, blah blah blah. I really don't care to know these things, but whatever. He sounded excited at having talked with her. Also, he made a comment about her making a bad decision in marrying her current husband and not him. He said she should have married him. She had a child with her current husband, also. He has made more comments about how in love he was with her and how they have a "history" together. They dated for 5 years, then she got pregnant. Well, his comments didn't necessarily come freely...i kind of goaded him into them, which is what I do b/c of my insecurities. I'm really insecure and wonder if I'm overreacting to his comments. I have it in my head now that he is still in love with her and wishes they could be together. Am I overreacting? If not, how would you handle this? He called me back last night, and I didn't answer. He has emailed me twice this morning, but I haven't replied. He hasn't mentioned anything about our conversation...like he doesn't have a clue what he said. Please help me! I don't know if I should just break it off or what. Thanks sooooo much....