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Registered: 03-05-2006
Sun, 08-06-2006 - 4:16pm

Hey, I'm in the same shoes---my STBX was told not to move out until legal separation, but he only sleeps here about once a week. 8 months and counting....

Do I feel separated? Yep! Do I hope to be legally separated next week? Yep! would I trust me to be telling the truth about this? Yep.

Would I want to get involved with a guy like this? I'd like to think that you could give him some room to get his legal crap cleaned up. If he seems to be making progress towards actually getting separated (Sept 1 is not so far away), then give him a chance!

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Sun, 08-06-2006 - 6:03pm
Wwhy did you have to answer the phone with the ex?
heather 5-18-10
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Registered: 08-06-2006
Sun, 08-06-2006 - 6:08pm
I never bring my phone on a date. I can understand a parent putting it on vibrate just in case the kid or babysitter calls but that is it. Anything else is just rude.
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Sun, 08-06-2006 - 6:14pm

I didn't get the impression that she answered it, just that he kept calling. Maybe I misunderstood.

Me, I bring my cell phone everywhere, since it's my only phone and I lose it if I put it down. I usually silence it, but sometimes forget (but never in places were it REALLY needs ot be silenced).



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Sun, 08-06-2006 - 6:25pm
I think to NOT bring a cell phone on the first few dates with someone new is terribly dangerous. I always have a friend call (and tell the guy beforehand) to make sure all is well. That way, if he is dangerous, he knows that someone knows who I'm with & where, so if anything happens to me, the police have that info. I don't tell HIM all that, just that I have a friend check on me during a meet.
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Registered: 07-10-2006
Sun, 08-06-2006 - 6:38pm
Did something happen to you on a date or something? I always meet someone in very public places. I'm curious as to what "dangerous" thing could happen that others around me wouldn't be alerted to and that a cell phone could save me from.
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Sun, 08-06-2006 - 8:29pm

Not sure if you've ever dealt with an alcoholic, bipolar, unstable X b4, but he was calling saying he was going to get our daughter & he was out of his mind ... as usual ... so I had to try to diffuse the situation somewhat.


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Sun, 08-06-2006 - 8:31pm
Thanks for pointing out it does happen. & exactly, I would certainly give him the time to "clear things up".

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Sun, 08-06-2006 - 8:33pm
In this situation, as you may see above, it was reasonable. I answered it once for my daughter's call & one time for my X's call. The call from MIL (crying b/c STBX was out of control & saying he was taking dd), the other 2 from dd crying & the other 3 from X, ALL went to the phone on silent ... so I only "took" 2 calls during the date - the others went to voice mail. I know the differnce b/w being rude & not. R~
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Sun, 08-06-2006 - 8:35pm
Thank you. Yes, I do bring it everywhere, being a responsible parent. & as you can see in the explanation above, you understood correctly. & either way, my date was extremely understanding. Thanks
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