Reasons to Stick with OLD!

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Registered: 10-26-2004
Reasons to Stick with OLD!
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Mon, 12-26-2005 - 2:26pm

Hi Y'all,

The Cupcake is back in the Howwwze! Merry Christmas and Feliz 2006!

To some of you newbies, I am a stranger, but the old schoolers will recognize me. I have monitored everyone's progress throught the board, as time has permitted. Laughed, cried, rejoiced with you all. There are Good reasons to stick with OLD!

Case in point: Many of u might remember that I met Tall Man(TM) 9 months ago. He has been just what my Cupcake heart desired from the beginning. Yes, we have gone through periods of adjumstment and understanding, getting to know each other better each day. His ex's behaviour has been a bit of a trial at times; but mostly because I feel that as the man he IS, he should always be treated with respect and care, and she does not do that, for the most part. But...clue #1 here: ASK yourself, when issues like this surface, "IS this a "we" thing?"; ie, will it change One thing about your relationship with your man? If not,drop it like it's Hot! Move forward. Don't get into things that do not touch Your planet! But...when it does leave footprints on Your turf; be fair and reasonable and express your opinion. I know we will have differences, I celebrate them, and I See that we can get throught them without yelling, harsh words, and we can move On, quickly, together. It has made us a strong team. I enjoy his children, and he enjoys mine, and I feel that the issue with his ex will subside in time, especially since it is Not a "we' thing. My respect for him leads me to let Him deal with His 'things' as he will, as he does me, with mine.

So, he took us all to Disneyworld for Christmas and it was truly wonderful. On our 9 month anniversary, he proposed to me at Cinderella's castle in the most romantic, beautifully orchestrated way Imagineable...my ring was set in a small glass slipper that said "Be My Princess Forever", and engraved with our names. It was brought to the table after a great dinner, as a special dessert, and then he began talking and we Both cried. Then came, photographers, champagne in special glasses, and a chocolate mousse dessert that had written on the edge of the plate in Chocolate :0 "Will You Marry Me?" I could not have Dreamed of better!

While this is awesome, it is his respect, friendship, caring and love that make it even Better! This is the reason you all should hang in there. Without Match.com, I would never have met him, though we lived in the same neighborhood at the time we met! We decided we even shopped at the same grocery store...but we did not meet IRL. Try, enjoy and learn....this will lead to your success.

We plan to marry in a few months; I am in the middle of selling my house (too large with my oldest grown and gone now, and my 16yr old with only 1 yr left at home), we both have lots of work...oh, and New Year's Eve in Miami, too!

BE who you ARE and accept someone for who They are...love them for what they bring to you, and how you can make Them feel. Go by your own plan and instincts, but DO listen to the expertise of those here on the board. Realize you are never alone in this!

Dare to Dream, Plan to Succeed!

Best o luck to All.

Truly,
Cupcake

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Tue, 12-27-2005 - 9:18am

Congratulations!!!

That is awesome!!! There is hope out there!!!

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Registered: 11-02-2005
Tue, 12-27-2005 - 10:19am
that is an amazing proposal!!! thats one of the most romantic things i have ever heard of! its like a movie or a fairy tale but its your life. wow, congratulations! it really is a confidence booster to hear that someone found that kind of love through OLD. i can only hope i can find something as good! i wish you luck with everything with him and your families in the future!!!
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Registered: 05-23-2005
Tue, 12-27-2005 - 11:32am
Wow Cupcake!
What a lovely inspiration you and TM are. I've been a bit down on OLD lately and really needed to hear this. You go girl!..and I wish you and your loved ones a wonderful life together.
Your wisdom and insight has always been an inspiration to the board, so don't be a stranger and keep us posted.
You are my guru!
All the best,
Michele
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Registered: 04-19-2004
Tue, 12-27-2005 - 11:55am
Although I may not agree that this is really a reason for me to stick with old because quite frankly I don't enjoy OLD much I think a big congratulations is in order that I'm happy you met someone so great and are engaged.
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Registered: 09-18-2004
Tue, 12-27-2005 - 1:10pm


yay! Cupcake!! I knew it was happening soon

Just to let you folks know I met Cupcake back when she was doing OLD and weeding through all the men.. So i know it can happen.. WE all have had bad and good experiences on OLD including both Cupcake and I but then along came her prince charming and you will just know just like she did.. They just fit and so perfectly well. There last 9 mths have been wonderful but also a learning process but she never had to question his actions because he always followed through..

This is a true story , of how you can come out of OLD , Good, even tho you had some bad experiences.. Just learn from things , keep improving to be a better person and when the rigth one comes along it will be easy.

Can't wait for the wedding Cinderella!!! Awesome proposal as well, this guy just is amazing! and so is she! :)

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Registered: 06-01-2005
Tue, 12-27-2005 - 2:22pm

Best Wishes Ms. Cupcakechic!


That is a beautiful proposal!!

CL-Truewild1969

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Registered: 10-26-2004
Sun, 01-08-2006 - 5:49pm

Hi Y'all,

Thank you for the congratulations--it means Mucho to me!

Everyone here deserves a Biiig hug; that you will take the time from your lives to be considerate and thoughtful to others, cements what I have known since I joined this board. In writing about my engagement I wanted to let everyone know that if you do as You feel is right, and follow your desires, it can work out. That is how it was recieved and I heartily appreciate all of you! NO one said it was a piece of (cup!)cake all the time. TM and I have had a few things to work through. To be honest, that is Very much of WHY I fell in love with him; I felt I am dealing with a man who Likes me, as well as loves me! Cupcakeism #2789: "You don't have to be perfect, just perfect for each Other"!

Many of the trials you all go through now Do truly suck; I went through many of the same. But, if you can see them as the lessons or 'clues' that will help you find what you are looking for as you travel the OLD path, then it is all worth it.

The support and friendship I have found here is Truly what helped me stick with OLD.

To '06 being a year of Great success for all of you wonderful people!

Truly,
Cupcake

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Sun, 01-08-2006 - 6:54pm

Aww, that was sweet.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Sun, 01-08-2006 - 7:19pm
wow! That is really encouraging news to us who are still in the OLD "game". Congratulations. It was a really really romantic proposal. Makes me quite envious!! All the best and congratulations again, I'm very happy for the both of you!

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