Is this a Red Flag??

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Registered: 11-08-2003
Is this a Red Flag??
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Fri, 04-08-2005 - 7:57am

Hello again,

I've e-mailed a few times and talked on the phone once with a guy that seems to match what I'm looking for in many ways. He is in the right age group, seems quite intelligent, is divorced and has kids so we have common backgrounds, and we have quite a few hobbies in common.

Here's the question. We were joking around when we spoke on the phone and he asked what I do to let loose. I assumed he just meant what do I do in my spare time so I mentioned a few hobbies and so forth. Somehow the conversation got turned to naked bowling which was a bit strange but it was joking not the leering kind of want to hot tub kind of thing. He sent an e-mail the other day asking if i wanted to meet for coffee and he ended it with this line.

p.s. you need to show me how much fun accountants can be.... lol

I almost feel like I need to remind him that we met on the dating site not the intimate encounters site but think maybe I'm being too sensitive. Am I?

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Fri, 04-08-2005 - 8:06am
I red flag any talk of sex before the meet but that's just me. I'll usually discontinue talking with the people as I figure if they're sexing me up then there are another dozen or so they are doing the same thing to (probably concurrently).
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Registered: 10-14-2003
Fri, 04-08-2005 - 9:50am
Oh yeah. Major red flag. This is probably one of the guys who's online to get laid.
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Fri, 04-08-2005 - 10:19am
Personally I think the naked bowling is more of a red flag than the comment. No offense meant, but accountants are not exactly known as wild, crazy people so the comment about "show me how fun accountants cand be" is probably more of a slam against the accountant stereotype than a sexual comment. But the other is a little wierd. I would say that it isn't a show stopper, but go ahead and meet and see how he is in person.

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Fri, 04-08-2005 - 10:56am
If you were mutually joking about naked bowling, I think the comment was just a humerous close to his email.


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Registered: 05-14-1999
Fri, 04-08-2005 - 1:43pm
I'd file that away somewhere, meet
the guy in person and just see what
your gut tell you once you've met
him ...
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Registered: 11-08-2003
Fri, 04-08-2005 - 6:54pm
Thanks for the advice. I think I'll do as suggested and meet him. If he's obviously just looking for a bed partner, I can do the good old "next".