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| Tue, 07-11-2006 - 10:00am |
I met a guy about a week ago, and we met last Sat for dinner. I went to his house for the 4th of July and now he's disappeared.
Friday I called him on my lunch break and he called back right away. We talked off and on about making plans that night but he got home too late.
He talked about my coming over tomorrow or Thursday to rent a movie, because those are my days off.
I haven't heard from him, and he blew me off over the weeekend, saying he had already made other plans.
Is this bogus? Should I call him tonight?
*UPDATE* I saw he looked at my profile again, so I emailed him yesterday, thinking if I didn't hear back from him, he wasn't interested anymore. So he called about half and hour after I emailed him. I don't understand. Now he's saying he's basically busy the rest of the month with work (out of town, etc.) Whatever, right? But then he said he does want to meet up and hang out again some time soon??? Yeah. Sounds like I'm being blown off politely. Ug. Men.
Even the older ones suck. :)-
Edited 7/13/2006 1:37 pm ET by entername_here

First, I wouldn't call...
Second, how did he blow you off? Did he make plans with you and never show? Also, on July 4th were you intimate with him? Reason I'm asking is to see if maybe he got what he wanted and now is done.
Either way, it sounds like he's not all that interested unfortunately as he's not really pursuing you. Don't bother chasing him. You're worth more than that. Go back online and look for some new guys to date... I'm sorry this happened to you, I know it stinks. But try not to let it get the best of you.
Kerry
Your first meet you came over to his house? Please practice safety - u should not be going to some stranger's house on a first meet. Nonetheless, then he suggested renting a movie on date two - do you see a pattern here? The guy is not taking you out - he's asking you to come over so he can get lucky if he hasn't already. Never put yourself in a situation like this where something could happen. Date them - go out for a drink or coffee - meet in public - you should not be going over to his house on the first couple of dates bottom line.
I'd ignore this guy and who cares - he sounds like he's looking for one thing so consider this a blessing in disguise.
SP
Welcome to the wonderful world of OLD and the term we fondly call "ghosting" or vanishing without a trace at some point in the process.
To clear a few things up:
I did not sleep with him.
I brought my sister along to his house the 2nd time we met up (block party for july 4)
I have not called him. But I did send him an email this morning because I noticed he checked out my profile again last night.
So if I don't hear from him by, say Friday, I'll know he isn't interested.
I am very new to this dating game. I'm only 21 and I'm a relationship girl, sad to admit. Fortunately I'm not seeing just the one guy. I'm diversifying and having a good time. Thanks for your advice girls. Sometimes I think you need to busy yourself with pursuing other people to get over the jerky ones.