religion & OLD

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religion & OLD
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Sat, 09-02-2006 - 10:33am
First off, I don't want to irritate anyone here but just want some opinions. I've been emailing with a guy a few times & he sounds really good but... where's he's from is really old LDS country & his family has been there a few generations. He's late 40's with quite a few kids & even 5 grandkids, Fits the bill that way, but his profile says he does drink socially (taboo for LDS) & is "spiritual but not religious. I respect the LDS but definitely am not interested in getting anywhere close to it. How can I find out- is it ok to just come out & ask? Personally, I think that's kind of tacky & rude but maybe I'm wrong. Any suggestions??
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Registered: 04-29-2003
Sun, 09-03-2006 - 12:28am
I'd just ask this..... "I know you said your spiritual but not religious but does that mean that you don't subscribe to a particular religious affiliation??" - it's not rude it's a good question.
Avatar Image"The Small Peanu
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Sun, 09-03-2006 - 10:16am
What does LDS stand for?
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Sun, 09-03-2006 - 11:04am
Oops. sorry! I guess in my part of the country- Rocky mountains- it's pretty well known! LDS- Latter Day Saints or Mormons. I know many people who are Mormons & are wonderful people but I don't want to be involved with someone with those beliefs. There must be others who feel as I do, whether it's Catholic, Baptist, etc or nonbelievers. I just wonder how people reconcile that. Thanks!
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Sun, 09-03-2006 - 11:21am

Thank you! Just learned something... :o) In some cases I don't know if it can be reconciled, especially when there's a huge religious difference. Are you religious yourself or just spiritual? I think that things can work out if the two people in question aren't devout and/or don't force their beliefs on the other party.


I'm spiritual and more and more am starting to consider myself a Christian but I don't go to church every Sunday nor holiday. I also would not force a partner into doing what I did. So long as he didn't blast my beliefs, it would be fine, you know?


What it comes down to is each person and the level of their beliefs I think.


I would follow Small Peanut's advice and ask the question in the way she did. There's no point to wasting your time or his...


Hope this helps!