Remember this online guy?

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Registered: 11-09-2003
Remember this online guy?
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Thu, 05-12-2005 - 5:23pm

Remember the story about an online guy who I met, though never in person. He was 12 yrs younger than me and that he wanted to make love to me, rather than have a nice friendship?

Even though I haven’t blocked him from my contacts list from my chat messenger, hoping he will change, now he was the one who delete me from his contact list instead. You see, this week he decreased the frequency of chatting with me on messenger and I was strange for his attitude, but then I did not give him importance so I did not chat back, even if he was still logged. Today I again try to chat with him and ask him just hello, how are you? For some minutes he did not chat with me, then he said Hello and I asked him why he was acting odd, the he told me: “This morning I just delete you from my contact list that is why I did not see you when you logged”. I mean I should be the one deleting him from my list, for the things happened in past weeks online, not the other way around, which is why I found that weird. I asked him why he deleted me, he never replied me that question and soon after he got disconnected from the messenger. He really did not want to talk to me anymore and he deleted me. Like 4 days ago, when he chatted with me just briefly, he kind of hinted me for the first time he was looking for a girlfriend and he was willing to listen offers of those ladies interested, of course by meeting them online first. I asked him why he was in a rush to have a girlfriend if he was young and have years ahead to do so. He told me: “I haven’t had a girlfriend in a long time and I don’t like to be alone and I don’t want it”.

So now Im thinking that the reason he deleted me from his list and he stopped chatting with me was because he could not convince me to do what he wanted me to do in the first place, which was kissing, touching me and other things, he wanted to do with me once we first met for the first time. I mean I should be the one who should have deleted him since the beginning but I did not because I thought he will change his mind and forget about the whole thing of making love to me, but I know, I made a mistake and I learned my lesson. But what an immature guy he is, what a moron, “he does not want to be alone and he needs a girlfriend”. Of course I don’t chat with him anymore, besides he does not want to chat with me either, he already deleted me. Good!!

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Thu, 05-12-2005 - 9:23pm
Question is... why are you even bothering to contact him when he isn't willing to give you what you want?

 

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Fri, 05-13-2005 - 12:10am
I just thought he could forget about the whole issue and want to be a friend and talk about other things, and converse, since that is what I thought of him the first time we met online, he seemed like a nice guy that is why I continue to chat with him. But instead of being friends he wanted to be intimate friends. But then like I said he deleted me form his contact, because I believe that he got mad because I was not going to give him what he wanted me to give him, he could not convince me and I said no.
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Fri, 05-13-2005 - 7:07am
There will always be someone around (male and female) that befriends you, yet has alterior motives. The best thing you can learn to do now is to cut contact when you learn those motives do not have good consequences for you. Biggest mistake we make is to think we can change a person, giving enough time or space.