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| Tue, 02-16-2010 - 9:42am |
I have a question, I have been seeing my girl for eight months and have ask on 3 occassions for us to take down our profiles even with a glass of wine while we do it. Problem is that she says she doesnt want to and that it just shows that I am insecure and controlling, to which I respond its a matter of respect for each other. She gets so upset its like you think she caught you cheating or stealing from her and on Valentines day ,I asked again and now because of this she has broken up with me. I have had
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Thank your lucky stars that she's gone and run for the hills when she decides she wants to start up again (and yes, I think she'll be back).
<<She says that she could meet someone anywhere in real life so whats the difference if she is on the dating site. >>
Because the PURPOSE of a dating site is inherent in the name of it - it is a DATING site.
You would think all of this would be as a matter of fact after all we are in our fifties and not teens. Is it just an ego thing or is it a power game. I tried to explain that even if she left the men would find someone else to talk to. Its not that the whole site is dependent on her being there for thier entertainment. Its very frustrating, so I sent her a email saying basically its the site or me and I lost. I dont know if its an addiction or what but if that is what the dating scene has come too why bother because when the next one comes along, the same could happen and who wants to be an option to a profile. It really hurts. I guess even at this age people are looking at greener pastures instead of being happy with what they have and then later try to come back. Does anyone think that she does this to hurt my self esteem or does she just do this because she just doesnt care, even though she claims she does and I am letting it bother me because of insecurities, to which I say BS because no one whats to feel like they arent enough.
Why does she act like the world will end if she has to take this down?
Stop trying to figure her out. It doesn't matter what she's thinking or why she does what she does. You are not on the same page relationship-wise. Not every woman is like her. There are plenty of women who would like to have a long -term relationship and get out of the crazy dating scene. Basically, you are not compatible.
She was a challenge and that's probably one of the reasons you're crazy about her. People often want what they can't have. Thank God you only invested 8 months into her. She's not the one. Move on and find someone with the same relationship goals as you. I know it's not easy, but you have to keep on trying. Maybe you'll recognize the red flags sooner this time if the person isn't right for you, as well as recognizing someone who you'll get along better with. It'll just feel right with less stress involved. Good luck!
I do think that's one of the problems of OLD is the continuous need that some people have to constantly look & see if they can find someone better & if they are missing out. I think that when people find someone they are really interested in, they just naturally don't want to see other people--it doesn't turn into a big debate.
Since I'm over 50 (just barely) I'd also like to know where the single men our age can be found! When I join meetup groups that are supposed to be coed (but not specifically dating groups) it turns out to be 90% women--that could be a place for you cause I have met so many nice interesting women. But I don't meet anyone through work and I didn't like going to bars much when I was younger--I think it's all people in their 20's now, so I'd like to get some ideas from a guy.
Edited 2/19/2010 5:24 pm ET by topgun923
Because she wants to leave her options open.
Just like what Vexer says, you should count your lucky stars your not with this woman.
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