I read the book too and actually like a lot of what they have to say. As to winks, I don't respond to them, but then, I've not been tempted by the guys who send them. The only exception was a guy who lived in another city who I thought was cute, so I winked back. I figured we'd never meet anyway, and I never did hear from him.
I'm not saying I would never wink back at a guy, but I have to say that if he's at all interested, he'll send an email. I personally think the whole "wink" feature on match is juvenile (but that's just ME). If I did wink back, I would then let him take it from there. I think most of the winks I get are from guys who just see my picture and think I'm cute, but have not even read my profile.
Or probably a line of B.S.--yeah, sure he has his own plane, he's Brad Pitt!
I don't know really what a "wink" is, but I'm assuming it's just an indication that someone looked at your profile & liked it but is too lazy to actually email you. In my brief foray into OLD last summer, there were a few guys who sent me an email that just said "Hi", nothing else. I didn't bother responding to those guys cause it just seemed very lazy to me and then what would I say back? Just hi? Or am I supposed to initiate everything? It would be different if I decided to contact someone first, but I figure if they wanted to contact me first, they should at least say something more than hi. It doesn't have to be a really long story, just at least mentioning something that would show me he had actually read my profile and wasn't just doing random emails to everyone.
Still sitting on the fence re answering his wink.