Well..I confess I saw him this past Sunday and we had lunch. But, it was a good thing. I realized I can't do this, and my feelings for him had changed. Sure I still have some feelings for him, but he's still completely vague about everything.
I told him as nice as it was to see him, I don't want to get involved with him and get hurt, esp when he can't promise me anything. He said he understands, but he didn't want to jump right into a relationship. He just wanted to date me and "see where it goes." Yeah, whatever! Meanwhile he's still using match.com EVERY day. Does this sound like a guy who sincerely wants to work it out? Doesn't sound like it.
I bet you'll hear from him again, so I'd block him if I were you, just so you don't have to deal with it.
I have a somehow uncleared situation with my Ex as well, we are still in email-contact sometimes and most of the time I am just happy to still have him in my life as a kind of a very special good friend. But when he is extremely sweet like he was earlier, our good times come back in my mind and I dream about what could have been when. Not that he has ever told me he wants me back and of course I have Rob whom I love very much and with whom I am feeling much more comfortable but......my Ex was long-distance as well and we broke up long-distance. I really wished I could have seen him again and help myself to really just feel friendship-like for him.
I still feel very fragile and moments I wonder if I should go back to him. It was good to see him, but at the same time, now I feel very emotional having seen him. I don't mind e-mailng him, but I can't see him and just be friends. It's making it harder for me to move on. He even wants to take a road trip next month with me. I said we could as "friends" but I think I'm fooling myself here. I don't think I should if I really want to move on. Tough decision.
Maybe you can see how it goes over the next weeks and what efforts he will make to convince you to come back to him. As I said he does not sound like he really wants to comitt to you the way you would like but maybe he is able to change when he realizes he misses you.
You must do what feels right for you now and take good care that he won't hurt you again. I see the point that you still have some feelings for him but maybe that's just out of nostalgia or so. Unfortunately we tend to remember the good things more than the bad ones. It's good though that you try to get over him before you will start with a new guy.
Send you some good vibes to make you feel better. Take your time to find out what you really want and then go for it.
And yes, you are completely kidding yourself about the trip!!!