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Registered: 06-02-2005
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Mon, 10-10-2005 - 9:49am
I’m thinking of having my e-mail address and vital statistics printed on a T-shirt. I’ll wear it whenever I go grocery shopping.
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Registered: 02-19-2004
In reply to: hal_9000
Mon, 10-10-2005 - 8:07pm
You see! This is why I don't like OLD. The real world is better--At least I get a reaction, even if it is small or polite.

It's not online that's the problem.

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Registered: 09-14-2005
In reply to: hal_9000
Mon, 10-10-2005 - 8:30pm

I believe the guy that's right for you will cross your path no matter where you are, no matter how much you try. ("You" is being used generally, not directly). I honestly believe that's what meant to be, will be. If I'm supposed to be single all my life and grow old alone then I better have a darn good time doing so and make the best of it. If I'm supposed to be with someone, then maybe God is waiting for me to get right with myself. Maybe He thinks I'm not ready.

This is how I get through every day so don't make fun of me...lol.

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Registered: 02-19-2004
In reply to: hal_9000
Mon, 10-10-2005 - 8:50pm

So maybe meeting online is what is meant to be for some of us.

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Registered: 09-14-2005
In reply to: hal_9000
Mon, 10-10-2005 - 9:02pm
There ya go! Nothing against increasing your odds with OLD. I think you're supposed to meet who you're supposed to meet when you're supposed to meet them. And not sooner. If that makes any sense.
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Registered: 09-04-2005
In reply to: hal_9000
Mon, 10-10-2005 - 10:03pm

ITA!

So...while waiting we need to make the best lives for ourselves that we can. If we meet a partner then that is just the icing on the cake. BUT, it's not the cake itself. If you make it the cake then you will wait for ice breakers, emails, etc. and feel rejected when you don't get them. If we're busy having a wonderful life we won't have time to keep track of how many people we contact, respond, ask us out, etc. And, when we least expect it...

Just my 2 cents.

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Registered: 10-08-2005
In reply to: hal_9000
Mon, 10-10-2005 - 10:21pm

"It's not online that's the problem. This board is online and you get plenty of reaction from us! The good thing about OLD is that yes, I can meet someone in the grocery store or the libarary, but I can't be everywhere all the time. The guy who's right for me might always go to the library on Tuesdays while I go on Saturdays, or maybe he goes to the library in the next town, or a different grocery store chain. With OLD I can be seen (viewed) by more people, lots of men that I would never bump into IRL. I can also maybe someday meet a great guy at a neighborhood store. I don't have to give up those real life encounters by having a profile online, I can do both all I am doing is increasing my chances of finding someone."

EXACTLY. Perfectly sums up why I continue the hell of OLD.

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Registered: 05-31-2005
In reply to: hal_9000
Mon, 10-10-2005 - 10:41pm

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I'm with you and I agree with your general line of thought... but how do you explain all those guys who have crossed into our lives and are not yet there?


Not looking to fight you... just curious to dig further into your thoughts.


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Registered: 09-14-2005
In reply to: hal_9000
Tue, 10-11-2005 - 5:48am
They weren't meant to be anything than what they were.
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Registered: 04-25-2003
In reply to: hal_9000
Tue, 10-11-2005 - 10:45am

"I agree. Each day that you don't get an e-mail or icebreaker feels like another day of rejection. It's passive rejection and I'm paying for the privilege. It's free in the real world."

Hal, I used to agree with your thought process and it was hard for me to take. I've tried reframing how I look at OLD and it's pitfalls. It is easier for me to think of having my profile posted and paying for the priviledge as putting my wish out in the universe. It's like I'm acknowledging and owning what I want. I've taken the time and effort to quantify/declare my intentions and I'm going public. I know this may sound a little crunchy, but it has certainly allowed me to take the whole OLD thing less personally.

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Registered: 10-07-2005
In reply to: hal_9000
Tue, 10-11-2005 - 12:36pm
I've been going to gym at work for serval months now and there are many cute guys there. None of them talked to me, and I am very shy to talk to them either. I assume they all have gfs now..........too bad...........