Romance found on OLD.....m

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Romance found on OLD.....m
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Mon, 11-21-2005 - 7:59am

An update....
Ahh, the romance with "Guy number #7 met on OLD" has turned into a relationship! Already. He is my boyfriend. Not sure why things move so fast in my life, but they do. I have to examine this. But it feels good with him. :)))

Sara

 

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Registered: 02-22-2005
Thu, 11-24-2005 - 4:10pm
Well, that's great! I haven't had such luck. None of my guys so far have become my boyfriend. I am so tired of being lonely, but I think 2006 will be a better year for me.
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Fri, 11-25-2005 - 8:43am
Was this the guy you were worried about Sara?

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Sun, 11-27-2005 - 2:13pm
Is this the guy that moved way too fast and told you that he usually does move too fast and winds up getting hurt? And you said you do the same and that moving so fast with this guy was giving you a funny feeling? Umm, are you serious?

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Sun, 11-27-2005 - 2:46pm

great!!! moving too fast maybe kuz you like each other so much and this is not a bad thing!

I might be gettin my first relationship from OLD soon too!
would be a first for me
I m looking forward to it :~)

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Sun, 11-27-2005 - 3:06pm

Moving too fast is very rarely a good thing especially when both parties admit they always move too fast and wind up getting hurt as a result.

Love and relationships take time to develop. You should get to know someone before jumping into something too quickly. Some might view that as too cautious. But after having been hurt many times in the past and having guys that move too fast and jump to calling me thier girlfriend too quickly and then have them wind up being commitment phobes or claim they're not ready for a relationship when they were the one that pushed for it in the first place, moving too fast is not my idea of a healthy relationship. It might have worked but 99 times out of 100, the relationships that flare up fast also fizzle fast or wind up being extremely unhealthy in the sense of neediness, codependency and other bad things.

If your gut tells you something, listen to it. Her gut told her before she was moving too fast and it scared her. Now she is exclusive with this guy that gave her a weird feeling because he pushed her when she said she wanted to take it slow. IMHO, not a good sign.

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Registered: 09-14-2005
Sun, 11-27-2005 - 3:14pm
Right on.
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Sun, 11-27-2005 - 11:11pm

SO what would you do ladies if you met a guy who interests you and who is actually interested in you and wants to have a relationship? do you push him away?

I doubt you would. We will all hold onto this guy for as long as we could.
I myself appreciate every minute of my relationships with my Ex's...
not everything has to end in Marriage and happy ever after. You can be the perfect match for each other and have known each other for ages and still live together and grow apart! to me time is NOT a factor... never was. I ve been in long term relationships where the more the time passes the bigger the feeling got that it was a mistake .
I would go with my gut feeling and if it did not work I did learn something and if it did great that s what I m looking for!

J.




Edited 11/27/2005 11:12 pm ET by juliara2003
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Sun, 11-27-2005 - 11:17pm
Well a few weeks and months

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Mon, 11-28-2005 - 7:29am

Hi All! Thanks, Julia for your support! :) And thanks too to all the rest who are concerned.....I appreciate it! My bf and I are doing very well! We are very much in love and hope it stays that way....regardless of what I should or should not be doing! ;) Will keep you updated!

Sara

 
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Mon, 11-28-2005 - 7:29am

People,
Sara imformed the board she has a boyfriend. She did not ask if you approve of her speed or not. Some of Us may not approve of the speed or the style but until she asks I would have thought its discourteous to actually lampoon her for her dating style.

.....People do what they do because they want to do it. Their values, priorities and standards justify and entitle their actions,feelings,thoughts,decisions,words,ideas,and desires.
Those same values in all situations determine the character,conscience, intergrity,and honour of the individual involved.
We all define our own values,priorities,and boundaries... and we all determine our own needs, goals,and wants.

If the lady thinks somebody is OK to be her BF, OK for her. She is not a minor. That you value things or place that value in a particular order does not mean others are not free to script and act in their own production as they see fit.

My 2pence.

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