Room for another newbie?

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Registered: 01-20-2005
Room for another newbie?
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Thu, 01-20-2005 - 9:22am

Hello all,

I've been lurking here for a little bit and thought I'd introduce myself. Seems rude to read without at least saying hello.

Anyway, I'm recently divorced (not quite a year) and have just started dipping my toes back into the dating thing. I thought I would try OLD to see how that works and that's why this board caught my eye.

When I first read some posts from some of the veterans here, I have to say I was just a little discouraged - reading about people giving up, people's bad experiences, etc. But came back anyway (What can I say? I'm a glutton for punishment.) What I've actually learned the here past couple of days from all of you is rather than being discouraged, to simply keep things in perspective and have more realistic expectations about OLD.

Now if I can just get all these accronyms down. When I first read "OLD" I thought that was harsh - someone was talking about a guy and not only was he "old" but she thought he was "OLD" and I wondered if he was THAT far out of her age range, why'd she go out with him at all? ... Okay, so I'm clueless, but I catch on eventually. ... Usually ... Well, sometimes.

So I wanted to say thanks. And I might keep hanging out here if that's okay.

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Thu, 01-20-2005 - 10:25am

Welcome.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 01-20-2005 - 10:44am

Hi and welcome! We look forward to getting to know you better!

Sheri

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Thu, 01-20-2005 - 11:10am

Good morning, nelle.

I'm glad to hear I haven't discouraged you with my words. Several times I have wanted to be kind rather than truthful and chose the latter as the best thing. It all comes from my heart, though (except my sarcasm!).

I am looking forward to reading some more of your posts.

amjay

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Registered: 01-12-2005
Thu, 01-20-2005 - 11:13am

Welcome, nelle_c...


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Registered: 04-18-2003
Thu, 01-20-2005 - 11:32am

Hi Nelle!

Welcome to the board! We have room for lots and lots of folks here. You can hopefully see by reading the posts that we all have different takes and opinions on things, as well as different experiences with OLD.

All those differences are always welcome here, though. This board seems to be a little different from some of the others in that even when we disagree, we are able to do so in a respectful way. We can be honest, sometimes VERY forthright with our opinions, but we always seem to mix it with enough compassion for the other folks here and with the true intention of helping someone with their dilemma. I enjoy the fact that somehow the folks here can tell when I need a bunch of "Awwwww's" and some virtual hugs, yet can also tell when I need a little dope slap to get out of a rut or am being stupid.

Rarely, if ever, do you see personal attacks around here. You will ABSOLUTELY see a lot of humor flying around. It's the best cure for the OLD blues. Hope you feel comfy poting with us soon!

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Registered: 01-20-2005
Thu, 01-20-2005 - 1:17pm

Thanks for the welcome - and for the link! I've got it bookmarked now.

- Nelle

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Registered: 01-20-2005
Thu, 01-20-2005 - 1:18pm
Thanks!
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Registered: 01-20-2005
Thu, 01-20-2005 - 1:27pm

No, not at all. I mean, sure, I'd rather hear that I was doing everything right. I don't LIKE to be wrong. But I always value an honest opinion over insincere kindness. So as far as I'm concerned keep it up.

-Nelle

p.s. For me, even if I'm sarcastic, it still comes from the heart! ;o)

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Registered: 01-20-2005
Thu, 01-20-2005 - 1:35pm

Thanks for the welcome. And the advice.

That's the sort of thing that I'm learning here and am trying to keep in mind. That while these are real people (presumably), it's an artificial situation.

Another thing is the people (I can't keep track who's said what here) who said I'll need to have a thick skin. It's good to know so I don't take things as personally.

-Nelle

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Registered: 05-20-2004
Thu, 01-20-2005 - 1:50pm

-Nelle

Welcome. We always have room for newbies!

Jodie

 

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