Rude to ask for pic before meeting?
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Rude to ask for pic before meeting?
| Wed, 03-22-2006 - 9:31pm |
I have arranged to meet someone this weekend but I haven't seen a pic. He hasn't seen mine. I have one to show, just haven't posted one to my profile. Not comfortable with it. When we were making plans he apologized for not having a pic to show. It's bothering me that he doesn't have one. However, I feel like if I ask for a pic I'll come across as being shallow. If I could see a pic it would alleviate a lot of the anxiety about meeting. Do you think it would be inappropriate to ask to see a pic? Thanks :)

Definitely not!
When it comes to OLD it is NOT shallow to ask for a picture. Regardless if you have been chatting with him and have set up a meet without either one of you seeing each other -- well there may be some anxiety but you both are in the same predicament. I personally would leave things the way they are and meet him. Some posters have had good experience; unfortunately all my blind dates were men I was not physically attracted to.
I'm not sure what you have planned; but hopefully it's something light and don't hang more than an hour -- no matter what he looks like.
If you have anxiety you must have some expectations rolling around in your head. Remember, NO expectations. Anyway he could look good and have a bad attitude. You don't know this guy so just stay open to meeting someone new.
Asking for a pic is definitely not shallow, not in OLD and anyone who responds negatively to a request for a pic is usually hiding something, low-self esteem at best.
When I first started OLD I broke 2 cardinal rules with a no pic guy I connected with through Craigs List. Besides the no pic deal,
I think it's questionable that he says he doesnt have a pic. Preparing for online dating, it is reasonable to require pictures to share with ppl.
I think it's vital to have a pic before meeting. We can read alot from a pic that may save your life.
And yes...there is a good reason why he doesn't have one. Who signs up with a dating service online without pictures when they are seriously looking for a relationship?
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