Is this rude?

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Registered: 04-09-2008
Is this rude?
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Tue, 12-19-2006 - 11:16am

I had a date with a guy recently that rubbed me the wrong way. Could you please tell me if this would bother you too or am I overreacting?
I get to his house and he's watching a movie. I had brought us takeout. We sit down to eat and he doesn't want to talk, he wants to keep watching this movie on the couch while he eats. So, we eat on the couch facing the tv when he has a perfectly good table we could have eaten at and actually face each other.

He does ask, "do you mind if I watch the rest of this movie? It's almost over. I'd rather finish it while it's all fresh in my head still. What am I going to say, yes I mind? I was thinking, 'gee, great to see you too!'

Well, then I realized, wait a minute, this is Pirates of the Caribbean...a looong movie. After about 10 mins I told him that it's no where near being finished. He just said 'really?' I pretty much had to prompt him again to turn it off. Then, I said, 'Okay the movies gotta go off..there's still like 45 minutes left of it'. So, then he turned it off.

My mood got all messed up because here I had brought him dinner and he was more interested in watching this movie than with sitting down and actually communicating and getting to know each other more. That was just too passive for me. Yes, we've watched a movie together before, but that was after we carried on conversation for a while (not to mention started it at the beginning for *both* of us to enjoy). I find it hard to believe there's nothing left to learn about each other! Just to spur conversation, I asked, "so, what's your middle name?" he told me then asked what mine is. Then he asked 'so what else do I not know about you?" I said with a smile, "well, plenty". He just snickered and then got up to go put on *another movie*.

I admit that I started to act a little cold to him after that. Guess he's not that into me...lol...I've barely heard from him after that night. I talked to him today and he said he thinks I was being bossy that night.

How am I the bad guy in this? What do you all think about this? Wouldn't you want him to turn off the movie?

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Registered: 05-02-2005
Tue, 12-26-2006 - 11:40pm
ITA
Well said.

 

 

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Registered: 04-09-2008
Wed, 12-27-2006 - 4:46pm

Ariel,


Haddassah and

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Registered: 08-08-2006
Thu, 12-28-2006 - 10:26pm
The guy sounds like a moron. You can do better.

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