Rules of engagement

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Registered: 09-19-2006
Rules of engagement
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Fri, 10-27-2006 - 9:00pm

It has been awhile since I have posted here! But have a question about 2nd dates. I posted an ad on CL (thanks for those who explained what that was) and received a ton of responses. I actually created folders.... Yes, Maybe, and What was he thinking! LOL What would I want with a 21 year old (I am 42 for god's sake). After weeding through the responses I emailed with several guys and it was interesting to learn that some of them after a few emails devulged the fact that they were married but were interested in a "friend with benefits"!! Yikes!

Anyway, I have been emailing with this guy, even gave him my phone number. He did not call until the evening we were meeting. But it took him about a month before he suggested that we meet. We meet the other night, and I thought it went great! We talked/laughed for 4 hours. He was a total gentelman, walked me to my car, gave me a hug and then just stood there and watched me drive away! (Ahh! So Cute!) I felt a little awkward, but was not sure I should do(I wanted to jump out and kiss him... but did not think that was the right thing to do on a first date). I sent him an e-card the next day (I always send a thank you card, with either an "I had a great time" or "thanks but we are not a match"). He responded with a you are very welcome, and said he had a great time and he felt like a little lost school boy as I drove away. We have exchanged several emails since then.

Here enlies the question.... Should I continue with the fun emails and wait for him to suggest the next time we get together? Or should I suggest the next one?

Any advice you can give is appreciated!

Thanks

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 10-27-2006 - 9:34pm

This is the 2nd time this issue has come up today ;-). Like I said to the other woman who posted about this, I'd say wait for him to ask you out for a 2nd date.

If he hasn't asked by next Wed or so, however, I would stop with the emails, saying something like, "Give me a call when you'd like to get together again". I have no patience for people who can't keep the dating thing going and just want to fall back into endless emailing.

Sheri

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Registered: 10-12-2004
Sat, 10-28-2006 - 11:50am
I agree with Sheri, but have to ask -- why would you care whether someone half your age contacted you again? Surely there are other guys you like better. So why waste energy thinking about him?
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Registered: 04-09-2008
Sat, 10-28-2006 - 12:18pm
I'm in a similar situation. Maybe you should give it a week to see if he will ask you out again before taking your eggs out of that basket. I feel like if a guy is interested in you, he will at least try to plan something even if the date won't be for another week or so. I think you should wait for him to suggest it.
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Registered: 09-19-2006
Sat, 10-28-2006 - 1:10pm
Thanks for the advice. I will give it a week to see if he suggest another date. Dating should not be this hard..LOL