Running for the hills!

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Registered: 01-25-2006
Running for the hills!
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Thu, 12-07-2006 - 12:34pm

After two horrible summer romances via online dating (one lied about his not-so-single status and the other was caught in several fantasy lies)...I decided the internet just wasn't for me. Although I still don't think its for me and that its essentially a playground or candy store for men (and I'm sure some women too), I don't have any other options right now. So, I went back. Met this guy who doesn't meet any of my normal MUSTS (i.e.-height requirement, background, ANYTHING!). In fact, we are very far on the opposite sides of the tracks from one another. The odd thing is...I really liked him and for some reason, we just clicked. So me, being extremely picky and yeah...judgmental, decided to give it a chance and just see what happened. So we met, and he looked like his picture (whew!) and things were nice. First sign of something wrong was that he wanted me to be his girlfriend the second day! I told him we needed to get to know each other better before such a commitment. We hung out everyday last weekend and had fun. I started feeling like I'd known this guy a lot longer than 3 days in the real and a week total. Then yesterday....he drops the deafening bombshell....asks me if I'd be willing to help him buy his Harley but not with the money. UM, H*LL NO! WHAT THE F?!? What sane person would actually go through with helping someone they've known one week get a $30K Harley? I was floored--and quite offended and disappointed. Clearly, Mr. Wrong had ulterior motives and thought he'd found a sucker. He can stick that sucker where the sun don't shine 'cuz I wasn't born yesterday. I can't believe he had the audacity to even ask!

Just thought I'd share because I've never encountered this. Men I've known for YEARS have never even asked me something like this! I can't imagine ANY man I know asking me this. I have yet to meet a person who lives in reality, a good person or an honest person online. I know it happens because there are several people in my office who've met their spouse online but I only attract the losers.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 12-07-2006 - 1:06pm

Yikes, you HAVE had a bad patch!!! The nerve of that guy. Wow.

I've definitely had better luck than you when it comes to meeting basically good, honest guys online...although I've certainly met my share of some not so good, dishonest ones as well.

Are you going to get back on the horse, or is that it for you? I can't say I'd blame you if you decided not to give it another go, given your experiences.

Sheri

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Registered: 01-25-2006
Thu, 12-07-2006 - 1:15pm
I don't have any options otherwise so I guess I will stay in the online saddle. Sigh....