Saturday Date - With a Twist - Part 2

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Registered: 09-16-2005
Saturday Date - With a Twist - Part 2
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Thu, 09-22-2005 - 11:41am

Hi all...

Thanks for all of your thoughts and kind words about what has been happening with me this week. Needless to say, yesterday got even better with a new twist.

Even though "Peter" told me that he really had alot going on with his company, had alot on his mind and that he would call me in a couple of days, I had a gut feeling that something wasn't right. So I decided to let things go and see what happened, trying really hard not to over react or analyze things too much.

Well, yesterday, things got the best of me, and I decided to look on match.com to see how long it had been since he logged on. Well, to my surprise, he was on line with match. So I thought to myself, if he has so much going on, with his business, and his business partner and clients and what not, and not being able to talk to me for a couple of days, then what the hell was he doing on match? Needless to say I stewed about it for a couple of hours and needed to go with my gut instinct, that "he just wasn't that in to me". So I called his cell phone and left a message for him, saying that I didn't think that things were right between us and that I would like to talk to him. Well that was at 2:00 pm PST yesterday and here we are at 8:30 a.m. PST and no phone call back.

I guess that means what I thought from the beginning.

Any thoughts of how to proceed? My gut is telling me to just leave all alone and move on.

Come on girls - need your help here!!

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Thu, 09-22-2005 - 12:04pm

Unless you and he had a discussion that you would date exclusively, he's free to keep looking on match.

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Registered: 03-18-2005
Thu, 09-22-2005 - 12:10pm

Nothing that we haven’t told u already—you didn’t need to call u should be dating others. If he likes u he’ll call, bottom line, don’t force it. Oh well, lesson learned.

 
 
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Registered: 03-18-2005
Thu, 09-22-2005 - 12:15pm
As I said “busy” is an excuse, if he liked you – you wouldn’t have called last night nor posted nor spied on him on match (until you exclusive everyone is free to cruise their dating sites), your gut says he’s not into you so your upset, trying to figure out why but you already know “why”. Move on – seriously, not worth the aggravation.
 
 
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-19-2004
Thu, 09-22-2005 - 12:21pm

But why does he need an excuse?

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Registered: 09-16-2005
Thu, 09-22-2005 - 12:38pm

Thank you for the advice - I guess I over reacted, but I never said in my voice mail that I saw him on line at Match.com. I just told him that I got a funny feeling.

But I may have pushed him away, but I had to go with my gut.

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Registered: 09-16-2005
Thu, 09-22-2005 - 12:39pm

Yes it is and I guess I over reacted -

I guess time will tell - if he calls he calls, if not, I definitely pushed him away!

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2005
Thu, 09-22-2005 - 12:40pm

Definitely not worth the aggravation!! I brought it all on myself that is for sure!

Thanks for the input!

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Registered: 09-16-2005
Thu, 09-22-2005 - 12:41pm
Well, I have to say that we talked every day prior to meeting. He always called me in the morning to say hello and to tell me to have a great day. He would then call again after he got home from work and we would talk again too. That is why I found it unusual that after we did meet, that all of a sudden, things started falling apart around him. I just had a gut instinct that he was blowing me off.
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Registered: 11-05-2003
Thu, 09-22-2005 - 1:16pm
In my case, I find it to be a turn-off if a guy calls every day after just a date or 2. I don't want a needy and/or clingy guy.
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Registered: 09-04-2005
Thu, 09-22-2005 - 2:03pm
Go with your gut! It never fails! Sorry. :o(((

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