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Saying hi... I'm new. :)
| Sat, 07-16-2005 - 7:27pm |
Hi Everyone!
Hope everyone is doing well. I saw this board and thought it'd be interesting to read/take part in.
I have a question in mind as well. Do/have any of you had issues with telling relatives, friends, etc. that you've met a significant other off an online dating site? I seem to have issues with that. Lying isn't my cup of tea, but somehow I'd feel embarassed saying that I met a b/f on the net.
Thanks for including me... have a nice weekend!
OG01

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Hi oceangal...
And welcome! Always glad to see new people here. I'm sure you'll find that we have a lot of people here who are wise and experienced... So feel free to post as often as you'd like.
As for your question, I personally would not feel odd about it but then again... my family already knows I'm a bit of a black sheep. LOL. I think things have changed nowadays though and the same stigma that once existed with online dating isn't quite as prevalant anymore. I'm sure you'll get different posts about it though... :)
Again, welcome and hope to see you around often!
Kerry
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If you keep doing what you're doing, you'll keep getting what you're getting... -- Les Brown
Hello & welcome!
I've had issues with family and friends being freaked out that I've met people online.
once you are dating someone...and getting to know them...the origin doesnt really matter...people meet in grocery stores, post office....bars even (although i wouldnt want to LOL) and those methods often time do not allow for the amount of communication before actually dating them...
if there is a problem with their reaction...ask them.."would you have rather I met him at a bar? where would you have rather I'd met him?"
Online meeting is way more commonplace in an era of "nesting" folk...ya know...it was a few years ago that people constantly went out on the weekends to clubs etc JUST to meet people because there was no internet. Meeting online at least means that (hopefully lol) you are not communcating with some people and its just the ratio that is higher even...i talk to way more people in a month online than i would in years out in public. It suits me as i am not someone who hangs in bars or has a hobby or friends who have single people in their lives for me to meet.
viva le OLD
Lizzie
Question: How did you two meet?
Answer: Just lucky, I guess.
Excellent reply amajay...and true too. I think a certain amount of luck is involved in OLD. "Lucky" that you were on the same site, etc.
To the OP: I've said straight out where I've met someone. I don't really care what they think. I am "middle aged" and my parents passed away a few years ago, so I don't have that factor to deal with. As far as anyone else, well, I just don't feel I should be accountable to them. Who the heck are they anyway to question my methods?
Welcome to the Board, I'm sure you will get plenty feedback from other posters regarding OLD.
As for your question, I use to feel the same way and my first LTR OLD relationship, we were heading to visit his mother for Thanksgiving and we decided to say we met at a coffee shop! It was partially true -- since our first "meet and greet" was at a coffee shop! (smile) It really depends on the situation, but as far as my family, they are so old-fashioned and overly cautious, that I prefer not to say I met them online. I don't particularly care; but hate dealing with all the backlash. (smile)
Welcome Oceangal!
To answer your question. Even though I am not currently using OLD, when I was active online I had no problem telling family and friends. It's not their decision to make for me, I am a grown woman and quite capable of making my own decisions and if I make a mistake I take responsibility for them. Only once did a family member make a remark that I challenged and that was "killer's and rapists are the only one's using the internet to meet people" to which I replied, "well, I'm on there and I'm not either of those". That shut them up, and now they say nothing or ask if I've met anyone new lately. LOL
Good Luck, I hope you'll stick around and join the fun!
Libra
One of my favorite sayings when people assumed I couldn't possibly meet someone who wasn't going to harm or kill me through online dating was, "Well, Lori Hacking met her husband at a church retreat.
When I first told my friends, I thought they'd make fun of me for being a dork... but no, they were excited for me, interested, and curious about how it all works.
When I told some family (asking if they could watch my son while I went on a first-meet) they were also excited and interested.
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