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| Sun, 01-29-2006 - 5:15pm |
Hello Ladies,
Sorry I have not been on this board for a long time… I hope everyone is doing good.
I would love to get your wisdom on 2 things:
I have been writing to a man for about 4 weeks He almost never replies to my emails but when he does he always finishes his emails by saying something along the lines of “ Please feel free to email anytime”. Truth is, that I like the man, but I hardly know anything about him and I am getting tired of having the impression of talking to myself at times … I just wanted to get your perspective before getting him off my “hotlist”…
I have been reading your pearls of wisdom and some of you mention that it is too good to “get excited” about a man too soon: I have a tendency to do that …. ;-( . Do any of you have tips to share in order to avoid that …
Many thanks as always
Winnie

To me, it sounds like this guy wants a pen pal. 4 weeks is a very long time to email without once mentioning moving things to the phone or meeting in person. I personally am online to meet people not to find an email buddy. Also, since he almost never replies to your emails, it sounds like he's not very interested either. I'd next this guy in a heartbeat.
As for not getting too excited, the important thing for me is to remember that you don't really know them - only the bit of them that they have LET you know from online convos. You have no idea that if when you meet that you will like them in person. In fact 99% of online relationships never make it past that first meet because of many reasons like someone ghosts, someone decides before meeting that you're not compatible or decides on the first meet that you are just not right for each other. Those statistics (and my own experience) keep me from getting overly excited about anyone!
When I started doing OLD I was like you. I would get all excited about some guy I chatted with and gave me the impression that he is smart and sexy...
The only way to prevent this excitement is to get out and meet people from OLD. You will automatically adopt a negative attitude after few dates. Now I go to first date expecting that it will be the last one and in most of the time it is the last date with that specific person.
Dont get discouraged. You need to meet about 10 people in order to find someone interesting.
If you were lucky and found someone b4 that then you are just that: lucky
good luck and keep posting
As Greg Behrendt would say: Don't waste the pretty (that's you!) on a man who doesn't seem that into you. The fact that he barely keeps in touch with you is a sure sign that he's not that into you; and the fact that when he does write he says to "feel free to e-mail anytime" is a sign that he's just too afraid to tell you he's not really interested. So in my opinion, you should move on.
You'll know a man is interested when he attempts to keep in touch with you at all costs, and is clearly pursuing you.
Good luck!