scammer or not?

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scammer or not?
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Sun, 03-28-2010 - 11:36am

I've been contacted on Y! P from a "supposed" 55 year old man (I am 39). My age limit is 44, but I'm giving him a reluctant shot.

The other day, I asked him if he would post more photos of himself (there's currently only one posted). So, I receive an email from him stating that he had difficulty in posting one up, that he's not tech savvy. So, I'm like to myself, "Dude, you were able to post one up to your profile. How did you manage that one and now, unable to upload another?"

He also emailed me his personal email address and suggested maybe he could attach the photo through there. Um, no, I don't think so because one, I don't want a possible virus. Two, the directions on how to attach a photo are basically the same for almost every type of computer application.

From what he's written, he doesn't sound like a "scammer", but I don't know. He really hasn't shown the obvious signs of one, but the difficulty of uploading a photo is making me suspicious. I'm thinking he has to be much older than the photo he has currently up.

Any thoughts? And if my reluctance grows even more, how do I back out of this? I do not want to ghost on the man (I'm not that type of lady to do something like that - I think it's a mean thing to do and I've had my share of ghosting from men).

Thanks!




Edited 3/28/2010 1:05 pm ET by bkws2007

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Registered: 04-05-2009
In reply to: bkws2007
Sun, 03-28-2010 - 1:08pm

I think I know what's up with the "difficulty" of uploading another photo, but I would like to hear what the others have to say.

Thanks.

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In reply to: bkws2007
Sun, 03-28-2010 - 5:13pm

Maybe a friend helped him post the origional picture and he doesn't know how to post more and/or doesn't have more shots.

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Registered: 10-06-2003
In reply to: bkws2007
Sun, 03-28-2010 - 7:52pm
maybe the other pictures are to large to upload? (benefit of the doubt) but I bet your right about the "pictures" he is going to send. *shudder*

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Registered: 01-25-2010
In reply to: bkws2007
Mon, 03-29-2010 - 3:09am
Assume they are all scam

http://travel.state.gov/travel/cis_pa_tw/financial_scams/financial_scams_4554.html
There are many sited warning you an showing the stolen pictures Do not send money ever.
Keep him at a good distance. Your security may have mail security mind do so you are protected.
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In reply to: bkws2007
Mon, 03-29-2010 - 11:37am
He just might not have a clue about computers. My ex is 50 and I was talking to him this a.m. about on-line banking and he said "I only go on the computer during baseball season to check scores." He would have no idea how to upload a picture on anything. The kids would have to show him.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: bkws2007
Mon, 03-29-2010 - 1:40pm

Three biggest excuses for not having their photos up online:


1. Because of my work/profession/job, I cannot allow having my photo posted on such a site


2. I'm tech illiterate


3. I do not have a camera or person to take a photo of me


Rule-of-thumb: Do bother to respond or have any more contact with him/her


If you don't want to ghost then say, "I do not deal with anyone who does not have their photo display."


Then block or don't respond any further.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: bkws2007
Mon, 03-29-2010 - 1:44pm

If the guy cannot figure out such things then he should not be on an ONLINE dating site.

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Registered: 04-05-2009
In reply to: bkws2007
Mon, 03-29-2010 - 5:25pm

Yes, yes, yes!!! -- you hit it on the nose with reason #1!

I cannot go into specifics about this guy, but main story short:

I "researched" him and the dude's on FB and he's got a photo up. Now, do I still continue to write/talk to this guy? He's already told me a little white lie....




Edited 3/29/2010 5:26 pm ET by bkws2007
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Registered: 10-06-2003
In reply to: bkws2007
Mon, 03-29-2010 - 9:39pm

I can understand about not posting a picture because of a job if he is professional.

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In reply to: bkws2007
Mon, 03-29-2010 - 10:29pm
I agree there is so little legislation in the US about privacy and picture theft. I found a data mine that had all of my dating site listed not wonder I am have problems finding a job!!

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