second date went too far... help!
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| Wed, 11-02-2005 - 6:29am |
Hey there,
I just had my second date with this guy last night. We met on Match, an had our first date 10 days ago. We had a lot of fun, but due to my busy schedule last week, we couldn't meet up, only talked on the phone a few times. We finally went out again last night. Everything went well, and then it came the good-bye kiss. It started out as a sweet, tender kiss, and it grew passionate, and the next thing I knew, we were making out in the car! We didn't have sex, but was almost half-way there. He wanted to come back to my place with me, but I politely declined and said that I'd like to take it slow. He said that he understands and that we can take it at whatever speed I'd like. I think he was disappointed though. So we said good-bye, and also planned to see each other on Friday. Now I am freaked out. It wasn't technically sex-on-the-second-date, but we definitely went way further than what I'd expected for a second date. I wasn't ready yet... it didn't even feel right at the moment. This is not what I wanted. I wanted romance, and I always waited until I have strong feelings for someone before sleeping with them. I am not sure how to proceed from here... I was so looking forward to seeing him, but now I don't know how to feel anymore! Is it going to be weird if the next time we see each other, I ask him to forget about what happened last time and just take it slow? Should I take it as a warning that he would attempt sex so early in the dating process? How can I know that he is not just in for sex, from now on? I hope I didn't jeopardize the chance for a good relationship for giving in so early. Any advice would be helpful. Thanks!!
J.

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Yes... I googled his name, and it shows up on the hospital website, as well as the med school's. He actually gave me his school and work emails too. But yeah, I can see how his mysterious behaviors can raise some suspicion.
I was talking to a friend and she said that cell phones are not allowed in the operating room, because it causes too much interference with the equipments, which makes sense. I don't expect him to have memorized my number either... Oh well, I'll just ask him what's going on when I see him.
Thanks for replying!
Edited 11/8/2005 3:17 pm ET by jjjj2004
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