Secret success factor of online dating..

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Secret success factor of online dating..
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Fri, 06-10-2005 - 1:47pm

Get good at handling rejection.

Without that there is no success with Online Dating (the stories you hear about couples marrying the first person they met online are luck -- NOT success -- stories)....

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Registered: 08-09-2004
Fri, 06-10-2005 - 3:49pm

Thats true. Actually, rejection is more or less what dating is all about. You have to reject people and they have to reject you quickly, so that nobody wastes time with the "wrong" person...which speeds up the process of finding the "right" person.

Also, I think one needs to be very quick at spotting liars, con artists, married people, etc. when they are dating. And weed those people out real fast, instead of wasting any time with them. Just think, every minute you waste with the wrong person, means its going to take you longer to find the right person.

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Fri, 06-10-2005 - 4:57pm
Yup.
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Registered: 05-28-2005
Fri, 06-10-2005 - 5:29pm
So true, although I think the average person has to come to realize this themselves. But once you do, it is certainly much less stressful.
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Registered: 02-07-2005
Fri, 06-10-2005 - 9:52pm

Exactly lg, you just have to get good at handling the rejection and NOT taking things personally. I say to myself, well, we all have personal preferences and I just wasn't in his preferences - his loss!!! Or he wasn't in my preferences!

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