seeing an acquaintance's profile online

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seeing an acquaintance's profile online
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Mon, 12-21-2009 - 9:09pm

Every now and then I recognize a profile picture of someone that I know in real life. Usually, it's not someone I know well (i.e. not well enough to trade online dating stories). Anyway, I figure the best etiquette is to ignore it and not look at their profile (b/c they can see you've viewed it) or mention it to them.

Someone I know (not very well at all) recently viewed my profile. We're in the same running group but we don't interact a lot, but now I feel a little awkward knowing that he looked at my profile. I am not interested/attracted to him, so I'm hoping he won't try to get to know me outside of running.

How do others handle this kind of situation?

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Registered: 12-02-2009
Mon, 12-21-2009 - 11:14pm

I haven't been on Match for awhile, but on that service, it's a simple click to hide and then show your profile. When I saw someone I knew online and wanted to view their profile, I would hide mine, then view it, and then show it again when I was done viewing that person's profile.


The good thing about that is that they won't know you looked at their profile. The bad thing about that is that they won't know you looked at their profle.


It's a dating site. Why worry about people you know seeing your profile when hundreds of strangers probably look at it daily? If he mentioned he saw you online or contacted you, be flattered and say thanks. It's a compliment.


This never obligates you to do anything more with the information unless he asks. And then you can politely turn him down. But he might be the coolest most fun date in the world too.


Your final reward will be heartaches and tears if you’ve cheated the man in the glass.          &nb

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Tue, 12-22-2009 - 7:24am

I never mention to anyone that I saw their profile, I just figure they'd rather remain "anonymous." Not that there's any shame in OLD, but I'd rather not talk about it with someone I don't know well.

As to hiding your profile on match.com in order to view anonymously...I did that, but I still showed up in the person's "who's viewed me" page, so I don't trust it. It's really a drag, I hate that feature. I would much rather view a guy's profile without him knowing.

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Registered: 12-02-2009
Tue, 12-22-2009 - 9:52am

As to hiding your profile on match.com in order to view anonymously...I did that, but I still showed up in the person's "who's viewed me" page, so I don't trust it. It's really a drag, I hate that feature.


Really? Thanks for the head's up and I'm sure others here appreciate that tip too. I really thought that feature worked and was a good idea.


Your final reward will be heartaches and tears if you’ve cheated the man in the glass.

Your final reward will be heartaches and tears if you’ve cheated the man in the glass.          &nb

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Tue, 12-22-2009 - 10:02am
It may be that you have to have your profile hidden for a while for it to work. When it happened to me, I hid my profile, then looked right away at the guy's profile. So, not sure what that was all about.
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Registered: 12-02-2009
Tue, 12-22-2009 - 10:47am

Maybe you're right, but darn...isn't that the point..because you just want to take a little look-see at someone at that moment?


Your final reward will be heartaches and tears if you’ve cheated the man in the glass.          &nb

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Registered: 01-22-2007
Tue, 12-22-2009 - 10:49am

I personally don't pay it any mind.

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Tue, 12-22-2009 - 2:58pm
I have a friend who is kind of resistant to doing OLD and she said "I can't put my picture on there--suppose someone I knew from work saw me." At that time, she was a VP of a big bank. I don't really see what the big deal is because those other people would also be doing OLD themselves. I would probably pretend that I hadn't seen someone else's picture unless I wanted to date them.