Seeing More Than One Person

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Registered: 03-03-2004
Seeing More Than One Person
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Sat, 06-20-2009 - 11:01am
I think this question has probably been asked numerous times, but here I go.
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Registered: 05-21-2009
Sun, 06-21-2009 - 10:19am
I think its up to your own conscience. If it feels comfortable to only date one man at a time to you, then stick with it and if it doesn't work then go back and start with another man. If you can date a couple at a time and that feels OK to you, then you can keep your options open and meet more interesting men. By the time the 2nd & 3rd dates occur is when their true personas begin to show and you can narrow the field. I wouldn't sleep with them if you aren't exclusively dating, but remember you are looking for someone you are possibly wanting a future with, so to me i see nothing wrong with just having dinner or drinks with different men to find him. Its all in what you are comfortable with.
Good luck :)
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Registered: 03-03-2004
Sun, 06-21-2009 - 11:46pm
Thanks for the kind response.
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Registered: 09-02-2008
Mon, 06-22-2009 - 7:39am

I'm on the fence on this one.

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Registered: 03-03-2004
Mon, 06-22-2009 - 8:31pm

We haven't spoken specifically about any of this.

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Registered: 03-03-2004
Tue, 06-23-2009 - 11:22pm
Guess I've been kind of wishy washy.
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Registered: 06-09-2008
Thu, 06-25-2009 - 2:45pm

IMHO its not "serial dating" until one party wants to be more serious/exclusive and you turn away from that to date a bunch of ppl based souly on commitment issues.


As long as you dont feel bad or guilty GO FOR IT! OLD should be fun...not shamefull!


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Registered: 06-09-2008
Mon, 06-29-2009 - 7:36pm

"How meaningful does anyone think physical contact is to building a good relationship?

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Wed, 07-01-2009 - 11:39pm

This past spring I went out on six or seven dates with a guy who, despite getting along incredibly well, never touched me, other than a quick hug (like you'd give a friend) after each date. No hand holding, no footsies, no even giving a quick touch while talking. So after a while I thought, "Are we even dating?" When I describe this scenario to other women, the first thing out of their mouth is "Gay". Even my mother...

At the same time, I was rekindling a romance with an old BF. Hot, crazy sex, tons of laughs, but the "relationship" part was awful.

So, there you have it. Dating two guys at once, both with a lousy outcome. I balanced it pretty easily, but it was really, really unsatisfying in the end. I didn't feel like I was cheating on anyone, because no one was giving me any kind of commitment. Give me one guy at a time from now on.

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Registered: 03-03-2004
Thu, 07-02-2009 - 12:59am
I don't really like dating guys who don't touch me, either.
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Registered: 04-22-2009
Thu, 07-02-2009 - 8:52am

LOL!