Seeking age on profiles

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Registered: 11-10-2003
Seeking age on profiles
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Mon, 12-26-2005 - 2:36pm

For you amateur pyschologists out there.

What does it say for a woman or a man who is looking for someone younger than them, around the same age, or someone older than them.

It seems that a woman who is seeking a guy that's younger is seeking a man who has energy and can keep up with her active lifestyle. Or, it could mean she is emotionally immature or inexperienced in dating. If a woman is seeking a man who is older, is she looking for a father type, someone mature (both emotionally and experience), and/or someone financially stable?

Any opinions?

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Mon, 12-26-2005 - 2:52pm

I don't think you can generalize.

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Registered: 11-08-2005
Mon, 12-26-2005 - 3:04pm

I'm leery of men who are seeking women in a very wide range of ages. I kind of think it means they're just looking for sex or they're desperate.

Everybody's different, and consequently, everybody has different reasons for why they are seeking someone of a particular age. Some generalizations can be made, but they won't always hold true from person to person.

If a guy is seeking women much younger than himself, I wonder whether his maturity is lacking. He's probably not ready to settle down and isn't that serious (just wants a casual relationship).

I've noticed that men usually don't seek out women too much older than themselves, maybe just a few years older. They generally go much younger than much older.

Just my two cents!

Meade

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Tue, 12-27-2005 - 10:16am

I think you are reading too much into it! :-) I think it is just personal preference. As for me, I prefer a guy between the ages of 30 and 40 (I'm 35). I do not want someone considerably older than me as I personally don't find that attractive. I probably do have a "younger" lifestyle, but think that is more because I have never been married and don't have any kids than being emotionally immature.

However, I agree that if I see a 30-something guy that has as young as 21 or 18 in his age range, that I will think twice. Any 35 year old guy that thinks a 21-year old is going to have much in common with him is delusional! I usually think these guys are just looking to relive their youth or have some young little hottie on their arm to show off to their friends. Sadly, they don't realize that the 21 year old hottie is probably after him because he is established and has money and/or they probably won't have much to talk about! ;-)

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Registered: 11-02-2005
Tue, 12-27-2005 - 10:23am
i agree with what you said. woman who look for younger men do sometimes want the energy and excitement. and women who want older men want the maturity. the second one is me by far. theres something about a guy who is set in life that excited me and draws me to him. finacial stability isnt always a factor with me, just the maturity level.
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Registered: 06-16-2003
Tue, 12-27-2005 - 10:57am

I don't have a younger age listed, but I actually have found younger men to be more comfortable with strong women -- I sometimes think my age (48) men are on the edge of a divide between men who want a 'traditional' woman and those who are accepting of independent women.

I steer clear of men who list a much younger age group, but I do have one male friend who's my age, never married (A great guy, by the way) and really still wants children and so he's looking for a younger woman for that reason.

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Registered: 11-10-2003
Tue, 12-27-2005 - 5:31pm

I'm in the same situation as your friend. I'm 39, never married, no kids, but would like to have children one day. I know there are some great single mothers out there, but I would like to have kids of my own first. There is something about raising a child of your own blood. I had a profile seeking women as young as 28 yo. I changed it the other day to 30 to 35. I found that 28 is the young end for me and with most women that age, having an indepth conversation is difficult, although I've met some very mature 20 something women.

At 35, a women's chance of having an uncomplicated childbirth drops by half. Unfortunately, it the facts of nature. I know some women will harp on me for seeking a "young hottie", but if biology was different and women were able bear children into their 60s, then age wouldn't matter. Thanks for your 2 cents.