Send email or not?

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Registered: 02-20-2006
Send email or not?
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Sun, 03-12-2006 - 4:28pm
I met a guy through eharmony and before we met we also corresponded through regular email. We met for coffee last weekend, he asked if I was interested in dinner and I said yes but he hasn't called so I don't think he is going to at this point. I am disappointed he doesn't want to date me but c'est la vie, I'm a big girl and I'll be fine. However he lives really close to me and since we are neighbors and have some shared hobbies I wouldn't mind being friends. Most of my friends are a little further away and it's nice to have someone nearby to just grab a quick dinner with, as friends of course, sometimes. So I was thinking I would give it another day or so and then close him on eharmony and maybe send him a short email saying, I was looking forward to getting to know you better but as I haven't heard from you I am closing you, but since we are neighbors I'd like to keep in touch as friends. What do you think - bad idea? Has anyone made friends with someone they met through OLD?
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Sun, 03-12-2006 - 4:42pm

Yes, I have two male friends I went out with a couple times but ended up becoming good friends with instead.

I'm not sure I'd phrase your email like that though...you're still hoping to get to know him better, right? Maybe something more along the lines of "I'm assuming since I haven't heard from you that you didn't feel we were a good fit, romantically, but I enjoyed your company and would like to get to know you as friends if you'd be up for that." I sent a similar email years ago to one of the two guys I mentioned and got an almost immediate response saying, oh, I'm so happy you feel that way. I even ended up going to his wedding a few years later!

Sheri

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Sun, 03-12-2006 - 7:50pm

I totally agree with Sheri, and think that phrasing your email that way sounds great! Good luck to you. I know how hard it can be to find a quality friend that is close by to spend some time with!!

M


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Sun, 03-12-2006 - 9:54pm
Thanks Sheri and Meg. Sheri, I like the way you phrased that, I think I will "borrow" it if you don't mind! Wow, you went to his wedding, very cool that you were able to make a friend and not have lingering romantic feelings.