Sent the email - NEXT

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Sent the email - NEXT
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Fri, 02-18-2005 - 8:28am

OK, under pressure of feeling guilty b/c of what JAHD said (yes, John, it was all you) I sent an email saying: "Hi - I got your message from last night. 11:30 is a little late for me. I am usually up then but trying to wind down and don't really take calls after 10. Maybe try to call a little earlier next time? :-) Also I am coming down with some crud and my phone was in the other room and I didn't even hear it" And then I proceeded to answer his questions from his previous email.

His reply was: "Sounds good... in my message, I said give me a callback when you get a
chance...apparently you didn't listen to the message :)"

No apology, no nothing. The tone in my email was not rude but probably wasn't overly friendly either - more matter of fact. Since I have not been enthusiastic about this guy since the sappy stuff (his last email heading was Knowing you... and yes, with the elipses), French words and the metrosexual thing started, I plan on letting it drop here. After calling me at 11:30, he offers no apology, doesn't mention a "hey hope you feel better" and then snots at me for "not listening to the message" (which actually I did - 3 times). I don't need a drama queen in my life. I am enough of one myself. :-)

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 9:59am
Don't think much of his message. You know, he reminds of jh's fellow who refused to take her phone number. Do you think they are both control freaks?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 11:18am

Well...to play devil's advocate, if I got that email from someone, I'd think that my behavior was pretty much ok with you, and that no apology was necessary (you were much nicer than I would have been!). But with the other reasons, and the fact that he made that call in the first place...next, for sure.

Sheri

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Registered: 12-10-2004
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 1:18pm

>>"Sounds good... in my message, I said give me a callback when you get a
chance...apparently you didn't listen to the message"<<

NEXT.

I think your message was fairly clear. I don't think you should've said you're normally up then, but when you said that you don't usually take calls after 10 he should have apologized. Plus his email is just a little bit too pushy for me- you ARE getting back to him, just not calling him.

I'd say send him one more email that says "You know, we are just not a good match. Good luck in your search." Then block him and NEXT!

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 1:46pm

amjay - yes, he might very well be a control freak. But I don't intend to find out.

Sheri - you could be right but I thought I was pretty clear in stating that 11:30 was not an acceptable time to call. I know I am one of those people that apologizes too much and for things that I cannot control sometimes, but if I had gotten that, I would have thought "wow, that probably wasn't so cool" and apologized.

NGOL - I thought I should be honest in that I usually am up late although perhaps it shouldn't have come up at this time. And yes, the response was snippy and pushy for me too. He was the one that did something wrong, not me and he is getting snotty with me. I plan on doing just that. Buh-bye and Next!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 1:50pm
absolutely NEXT him! How dare he tell you that you didn't listen to his message! I think that is either rude or his sense of humor is way off base. I'd block him and move on. Let him wonder.
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Registered: 08-27-2004
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 1:55pm

Yeah, I agree, I think he was very condescending in his reply. Your Rico Suave has a little attitude problem ;) Well, he's someone else's problem now.

Holly

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 2:03pm

Definitely a drama queen.

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Registered: 07-31-2004
Sat, 02-19-2005 - 1:39pm

You proved your gut feeling right in the first place. He's exactly as you thought. The 11:30 phone call spoke volumes.

Lisa

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Sat, 02-19-2005 - 2:08pm

Yep. You're right. And when I sent my buh-bye email, I did a bit of a lisapeake move. Hey, sometimes it feels good to be a bee-yotch! Here's what I said:

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I don't think we are really a match. Best of luck in your search.>>

Then I blocked him. Probably not the classiest move, but instead of just going away with the "not really a match" email, I thought it good to let him know that kind of behavior is not acceptable with most of the population.

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Registered: 07-24-2004
Sun, 02-20-2005 - 11:07am
Way to go, vexer!
Linda

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