sent pretty boy a goodbye email
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| Wed, 01-03-2007 - 8:07pm |
I know that you all told me not to do it, but I did.
I wrote a little email to pretty boy and wished him goodbye.
I don't know why I did it. It just felt like the right thing to do - to have some kind of "closure". (I know - I'm weird) I just didn't want to wait on him and have him on my mind anymore.
It really did hurt me to send it. I'm actually in tears as I type this post. And I don't know why I'm crying!!! It's not like I knew him for a long time. And it wasn't him who I put all my eggs into, it was the other guy. I guess it's because I thought he'd be different than the other pretty boys. And I'm so frustrated with this dang OLD!!!
Gosh, I need to build myself tougher than this...somebody slap me to break me out of this mode!
Thank you for letting me cry and vent and all...

Ok...I'm confused, because not only did you not "know" him for a long time, you don't know him AT ALL!!!!! You've never met the guy! Why, why, why would you cry over someone you have never met? That makes absolutely no sense.
Maybe OLD isn't a good fit for you. You might want to take a break from it and come back when you've developed a much thicker skin!
Sheri
Well the first lesson I hope you learn is that sending the email to Pretty Boy DID NOT HELP you to feel any better. Maybe a momentary relief initially, but it'll be short-lived relief.
We don't need a thick skin for online dating . . . we need a thick skin for everyday ordinary life.
I'm not sure what dating options you've got over and above OLD . . . but I personally don't think it's OLD that's hurting you. Perhaps your self esteem is not at it's optimum for dating whether it be online or real life.
Or maybe you were just having a bad day and this pretty boy was the last straw :-)
I personally find xmas / new years about the worst time to be alone . . . and it's not that I'm alone per se . . . a tonne of family around . . . but I'm the only single person in the clan and you know what they say about feeling more alone when surrounded by others :-)
Any number of factors if not the two above could have triggered a flood of tears.
Sadly enough . . you will, if you stay with OLD . . . likely have several more of these occurrences as well as some off the wall incidents you may one day laugh at. Unfortunately you'll get used to it before you find "him". You'll figure out as you go when saying "goodbye" is not necessary or warranted.
And here's a perspective that's popped into my head . . .
. . . If we expect a reply from every man to whom we send a pic . . . then in turn we owe a reply to every guy we hear from.
Call me a total bag but I'm not prepared to make that committment (stick with OLD and you'll soon understand why :-)