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Registered: 04-13-2003
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Thu, 08-11-2005 - 7:31pm
Is there anybody here that is a bit wary of people who put in their profiles that they're separtated? I've noticed a few men that I'm interested in but then I notice that they're separated and it makes me wonder. Divorced I can take.

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Registered: 07-24-2004
In reply to: kathy748
Fri, 08-12-2005 - 7:40pm

"Separated" means different things to different people. Some men are "separated" when their wives are out of town. Some men are "separated" when they've filed separation paperwork.

Here in Ohio, there IS no legal separation, so "separated" means "married." Some states actually have legal separation that can last for years, but to me, it still seems "married."

Emma -
"On yahoo personals, I've matched with guys that under their criteria for their match in marital status they would have "any". What's up with that."

Not such a big mystery is it? THOSE guys certainly don't care if you're separated... hell, you can even still be married!! :-)

Tracy

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: kathy748
Fri, 08-12-2005 - 8:05pm

What I especially find amusing are the guys who specify things like hair color, eye color and body type, but put 'any' for marital status! As in "I don't care if she's married, so long as she's a thin green-eyed blonde!"

Another in the long list of things that make you go hmmm ;-).

Sheri

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Registered: 07-24-2004
In reply to: kathy748
Fri, 08-12-2005 - 8:11pm

I have to admit, when I first posted my profile, it was one of my girlfriends who pointed out that I'd left "any" in the marital status checkbox.

It HONESTLY never occurred to me that "any" would include "married..."

And you're so right, Sheri... I really like they guys who don't pick ANY qualifiers except "slim". Poor? Okay. Stupid? Okay. No sense of humor? Okay... but "average weight?" HORRORS, no!!!!!!! She must be SLIM!!

Tracy

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Registered: 04-19-2004
In reply to: kathy748
Fri, 08-12-2005 - 8:40pm
ITA!!! LOL
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Registered: 07-22-2005
In reply to: kathy748
Sun, 08-21-2005 - 8:49pm
It is never wise to date anyone who is only seperated from their spouse. They have too much drama going on and they are still legally and emotionally commited elsewhere, especially if there are young children involved. A good rule of thumb is to wait until someone is totally divorced. I have dated men who were either just seperated or freshly divorced and still carried a torch for their ex, a couple of them eventually got back together with their ex and left me in the dust. I had this uncanny ability to attract these men, and was forever known as rebound girl. Usually their wounds are still fresh and they are in a lot of pain whether they show it or not, and need a shoulder to cry on or something else...... "wink, wink". If a guy shows real promise, and is really into you, he will speed his divorce along very quickly so he is availble to date again. If he keeps dragging his feet, and droans on excessivley about how she screwed him and all the great times they had together........ Drop him like a hot potato.
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Registered: 01-27-2005
In reply to: kathy748
Mon, 08-22-2005 - 9:02am

LMAO Selfish-help?


Too funny amjay


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Registered: 09-09-2003
In reply to: kathy748
Mon, 08-22-2005 - 8:37pm
I pass on the divorced and separated unless I am divorced myself.
I dont want to be with a guy who walked the aisle with another woman and thought he would be with her forever. I prefer single guys

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