Serial daters? What is it to you?

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Serial daters? What is it to you?
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Tue, 08-30-2005 - 10:57am

We all talk about dating like a man or stacking them up - so my question is "what is a serial dater to you"? Even if we find someone we "really" like more than the others -- our peers tell us to keep dating to keep our mind off of HIM and to not put all eggs in one basket. So I ask you, what is a serial dater then to you?

Thought this would make a good post.

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Tue, 08-30-2005 - 11:11am
I find a serial dater to be someone who isn't really looking for a serious relationship, just a steady stream of men to pay for her meals and nights out and maybe an occasional romp.
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Registered: 06-27-2005
Tue, 08-30-2005 - 11:50am
Is that a bad thing....
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Registered: 04-19-2004
Tue, 08-30-2005 - 11:58am
Only if YOU consider it bad for yourself.
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Registered: 09-02-2003
Tue, 08-30-2005 - 1:00pm

I think 'serial dater' has some negative connotations, so really a serial dater might be anyone we're interested in, who is dating other people!!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-30-2005 - 1:34pm

A serial dater, to me, is someone who has no intention of forming a relationship...they date just to date and add notches to their belt (not necessarily sexual notches though...for women, it may just be the attention). They may not be aware of it though...they think they want a r'ship but they are always in search of the BBD. Amy on Hooking Up comes to mind.

Dating several people early on in the dating process is NOT serial dating however. "Serial" means in a series, one right after another.

Sheri

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Registered: 06-01-2005
Tue, 08-30-2005 - 4:10pm
"not necessarily sexual notches though...for women, it may just be the attention." I have found that women who date a lot, seem to send a message that their maybe something wrong with them.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-30-2005 - 5:31pm

Can you clarify what you mean, Jodie? I don't think dating a lot of different people, *in and of itself*, sends any particular message.

It would have to be coupled with other factors for me to think there was something "wrong" with the person.

Sheri

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Registered: 08-28-2005
Tue, 08-30-2005 - 6:41pm
I think when people say serial dater they mean some player kind of guy or woman who just wants to date date date but never really settle down. There is nothing wrong with dating a lot or more than one person at a time but when it gest to a certain point the relationship has to move onward.
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Registered: 01-31-2004
Tue, 08-30-2005 - 8:11pm
to me serial dater = someone that is active "within 24 hours" for > 2 years.
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Registered: 09-18-2004
Wed, 08-31-2005 - 12:28am


serial dating is someone who just wants to date a lot of people for fun. they could be dating them at the same time or just one after the other. someone who is not into settling down just wanting to date lots of people. consecutive dating, continuous meaning one person to the next..

someone that is a serial dater is not looking for any kind of commitment.

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